Here we are mid November in the northeast, thinking softball is done for the season, but lo and behold!, a nice weekend is in the forecast and DD's coach has scheduled a double header Sunday. DD has made plans that day to be with her friends who she hasn't seen in awhile and she is looking forward to it. DD has never missed a scheduled game or practice this whole Summer/Fall season (18U). This get together was planned a few weeks ago when she thought November 22 would be a safe day to do so. She's leaning towards going with her friends and skipping the games, which I have no problem with. But now she's stressing what if they don't have enough girls (12 girls on roster, one hasn't showed up for the last two weeks of games or practices, one has been treating a concussion from a month ago) If they only have 8, she would feel like she's letting the team down. I don't think she should feel that way at all, she's missed quite a few get together with friends for softball. What would your DD do?
What would DD do?
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- May 27, 2013
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Has the team been practicing up until this point? If not, and the season was over, dd would go with her friends who she made plans with.
Can your dd just reach out to the coach and ask if there would be enough players and explain that she had made plans?
Schedule is typically set beginning of the fall season. No sporadic add-ons at this point after last tourney / showcase.
Can your dd just reach out to the coach and ask if there would be enough players and explain that she had made plans?
Schedule is typically set beginning of the fall season. No sporadic add-ons at this point after last tourney / showcase.
DD is playing, no good anwser.
- Apr 28, 2019
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DD’s choice. You’ve already honored your commitment for Spring/Summer/Fall.
She has plans with friends outside of softball and this is an impromptu extra game deal so I wouldn’t feel guilty at all.
She has plans with friends outside of softball and this is an impromptu extra game deal so I wouldn’t feel guilty at all.
Can't make it bro. Sorry, made these plans a month ago . I know a player that would guest.
I mean , how serious can a 18u team be with 12 on the roster?????
I mean , how serious can a 18u team be with 12 on the roster?????
- Aug 6, 2013
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If it is just a random double header that was put together after the season was finished then I would be fine with my daughter going out with her friends. She earned it by working hard during the set schedule of the fall season. I’m pretty sure my DD would go out with friends, lol.
If it were a tournament, I'd say you need to tell the friends to find another time. For a last minute, random friendly? I'd let dd make the call and tell her not to feel pressure either way.
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If there was a definite end date to the fall season (ex - ours ended 2 weekends ago, both practice and games) and this was something the coach added on randomly thinking the team could play without getting any input from the players, then I’d say your dd should absolutely not feel guilty about seeing her friends.
These girls already sacrifice and miss so much (homecoming, beach trips, summer vacations, etc); plus the summer season just went right into fall season without the typical few weeks off in between due to the later summer season start. Coach needs to be realistic and understand that, as well.
These girls already sacrifice and miss so much (homecoming, beach trips, summer vacations, etc); plus the summer season just went right into fall season without the typical few weeks off in between due to the later summer season start. Coach needs to be realistic and understand that, as well.
