I have helped my dd's coach last year and again this year. We are a 12u team and he also coaches a 14u team. He has to my knowledge always had the older girls help the younger ones out. I completely agree.
However after practice last week he told me that I need to step back and let his 13 yo coach more because she knows more about the game than I do. I was then told by his wife (who is also a coach) that the game has changed recently that I need to let him have his way. Now I played ball at a decent level, JuCo back in the mid 90's for context. I've been in baseball/softball my entire life, so 40 years.
He's only been to one practice in 3 weeks, the wife has been there but hardly knows the game. She already ran the best girl on our team away because of a "communication issue" with the dad. But the kicker is that none of them were at practice tonight. Then I got a text message again tonight that I better not overstep my bounds.
My point in all of this, I feel like support from an older girl is welcomed, showing how to do drills, mentoring, etc. is all good. However, to expect her to actually coach them I think is a mistake.
I don't want to show my daughter that it's okay to quit a team, but I'm extremely close to making that call and finding another team to call home. My wife is already prepared to go nuclear, which to this point I've kept her at bay.
It's a power struggle I want no part of. He can have the bs of being the head coach, I just want to teach the girls to be good kids and get better at the game.
However after practice last week he told me that I need to step back and let his 13 yo coach more because she knows more about the game than I do. I was then told by his wife (who is also a coach) that the game has changed recently that I need to let him have his way. Now I played ball at a decent level, JuCo back in the mid 90's for context. I've been in baseball/softball my entire life, so 40 years.
He's only been to one practice in 3 weeks, the wife has been there but hardly knows the game. She already ran the best girl on our team away because of a "communication issue" with the dad. But the kicker is that none of them were at practice tonight. Then I got a text message again tonight that I better not overstep my bounds.
My point in all of this, I feel like support from an older girl is welcomed, showing how to do drills, mentoring, etc. is all good. However, to expect her to actually coach them I think is a mistake.
I don't want to show my daughter that it's okay to quit a team, but I'm extremely close to making that call and finding another team to call home. My wife is already prepared to go nuclear, which to this point I've kept her at bay.
It's a power struggle I want no part of. He can have the bs of being the head coach, I just want to teach the girls to be good kids and get better at the game.