DDs see no honor in being called up to varsity, and riding the bench-hear me out.

[wheresmycar]

What if there is no evidence he is doing what is best for the team? What if he proves during practice that he doesn't really know the game?

Ok. I was giving you the benefit of the doubt on this question from your original post... "Am I doing something wrong that DDs see no honor is being called up to varsity? " Clearly, you are, if you are rationalizing their poor attitude this way...

You really are not in a position to judge what's best for the "Program". Perhaps he has prior experience with TB players who abandon the program before they graduate, in pursuit of their own selfish interests.

 

[Bob516]

Ok. I was giving you the benefit of the doubt on this question from your original post... "Am I doing something wrong that DDs see no honor is being called up to varsity? " Clearly, you are, if you are rationalizing their poor attitude this way...

You really are not in a position to judge what's best for the "Program". Perhaps he has prior experience with TB players who abandon the program before they graduate, in pursuit of their own selfish interests.

Ok, I am going to back off our conversation now.

 

[GoRight]

My daughter was on JV last year as a catcher. She played every game. Once the JV season was over she was called up to varsity. She was told she was simply there to back up the junior starter. The other varsity catcher was moved to another position for the post season so my daughter was told she was next in line in case something happened. She was ok with this. Nothing happened so she never played but she was happy to help out.

This year she switched schools and doesn’t even feel valued or needed. Funny how it can be so different in just a year. That’s another post.


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[Bob516]

She was ok with this. Nothing happened so she never played but she was happy to help out.

This year she switched schools and doesn’t even feel valued or needed. Funny how it can be so different in just a year. That’s another post.

Seems like a coach makes all the difference in the world whether or not a player feels valued.

 

[GoRight]

Seems like a coach makes all the difference in the world whether or not a player feels valued.

That’s exactly what I mean. These coaches don’t realize sometimes how much their decisions or how they act effect a kid. I understand it’s life lessons, but it’s also a game.


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[Eric F]

Last week, I went to watch one of my DD's TB teammates play with her HS team. She is one of two freshmen on the team (both Ps). The other freshman got the start and pitched a complete game. My DD's teammate didn't get a single pitch, didn't get an AB, and didn't even get to run for anyone. Throughout all 7 innings, she was the loudest and most energetic player in the dugout, celebrating each one of her teammates' successes on the field.

 

[chinamigarden]

He said at the parents meeting, he is going to make it easy on himself, and simply play the returning girls from last year. This when he admitted there were freshmen who should be on varsity and upperclassmen who should be on JV.

What kind of respect should they show him when he says they should be on varsity, but puts them on JV?

Lots of respect, if he knows that if they are brought up they will be part time players in his system. He knows they will play regular on JV.

You don't have to agree with someone to have some respect for them.

 

[murphdog]

I don’t want to be harsh but there’s really no way to sugar coat this.
If either one of them wants to play in college they need to get used to playing bench if it’s what is best for the team. And by saying “what’s best for the team” I mean what the coach thinks is best, not what they, you or anyone else thinks is best.
DD’s college team had 9 freshmen this year. 1 started almost every game, 1 was DH almost every game and 1 pitched fairly frequently. The other 6 sat, 2 got some playing time here or there and a couple pinch ran some. This doesn’t mean they weren’t of value to the team, it just means that this season wasn’t their time for whatever reason.
My advice to them is suck it up, be a good teammate, and learn from it.
Life isn’t fair but a not great situation doesn’t have to be miserable unless you let it.
Oh, and let them decide how they feel about it. How you feel about it shouldn’t influence how they feel.

 

[SESwildfire]

Last week, I went to watch one of my DD's TB teammates play with her HS team. She is one of two freshmen on the team (both Ps). The other freshman got the start and pitched a complete game. My DD's teammate didn't get a single pitch, didn't get an AB, and didn't even get to run for anyone. Throughout all 7 innings, she was the loudest and most energetic player in the dugout, celebrating each one of her teammates' successes on the field.

this right here says everything you need to know about riding the bench. Be that player thats jumping up to warm up right field, be loud, offer advice if a girls down. Outplay girls with seniority in practice and let the coach make the calls when/when not to play. Never involve your parents. When you get that one at bat, that one inning make it count.

 

[Daddio]

He said at the parents meeting, he is going to make it easy on himself, and simply play the returning girls from last year. This when he admitted there were freshmen who should be on varsity and upperclassmen who should be on JV.

What kind of respect should they show him when he says they should be on varsity, but puts them on JV?

Possibly the HC is actually doing your daughters a favor?

He probably gives the same speech every year - only returning girls will play. Now that your daughters have been pulled up, THEY WILL BE RETURNING PLAYERS NEXT YEAR. So next year he can justify starting your daughters over other returning players (current juniors and sophomores). In addition, having your daughters spend a lot of time in the dugout this year may reduce hard feelings when they start over older girls, as it will aid the perception that your daughters have "paid their dues".

As for the "honor" thing for your daughters, I'd remind them that HC told the parents before the year started what his playing rules are. Since they agreed to those rules and joined, they shouldn't be upset when the HC does exactly what he said he would do.