So, you would tell your daughter to work her tail off and just sit the bench? Would you keep your daughter on a club team with daddy ball? We're going to let her make the decision and see how it goes. She needs to figure out what is more important to her.
TB players are free to choose the team that suits them best. If your DD is not happy with her HS team she does not have to play, but I would not advocate changing schools for softball - it is just not that important and has little to no influence on recruiting.