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Feb 17, 2014
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Here I go with the pitching dynamics argument again . I got ran out of here once before so might as well go for it again. It is not as complicated as you make it out to be. At that age level with college coaches watching you would you ever see a hockey goalie talk to his father in between periods, a QB talk to his dad at half, A BB player go in the stands during a timeout. I know I can never win an argument on this site when it comes to softball pitching . You guys make it out to be brain surgery X 10.
And to clear up. DD is a 21 year old grad asst. so she is not calling the recruiting shots by any means. but she was turned off when this girl did it multiple times because she knows that none of her former coaches or I would have allowed it. You are playing a sporting event, unless there is an emergency, stay inside the ropes.

Yeah, you are right. On several occasions last season I noticed Rick Pauly on his iPad watching reruns of I Love Lucy in the Georgia dugout during games. After all by the time the those pitchers and catchers get to the SEC they should have all the answers and be able to figure it out on their own.
 
Dec 13, 2014
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Did he let his pitchers go into the stands so their dad could correct their brush interference in between innings
 
Feb 17, 2014
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Did he let his pitchers go into the stands so their dad could correct their brush interference in between innings

No he was there for them, because the need for someone in that role does exist. If what you was correct and it truly is "not as complicated as you make it out to be" then they would not need help from anyone regardless of where they sit during a game.
 
Dec 20, 2012
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When college coaches are watching you , act like you are playing college softball. What if the players wanted to ask their dads about hitting. An empty dugout?? Pitching lessons from dad in between innings is overkill. Wait till the game is over.

I'll tell my experience. In Colorado Coach Miller, then with U of O, came to watch my dd and made it for last 2 innings. When he got there and the coach wanted to get her warmed up he didn't grab a girl off the bench or an assistant. He grabbed me out of the stands to get her ready. If it's dad, mom or uncle Pete why would any coach not want a kid to be put into the very best situation to succeed? And it did not have any adverse affect on her getting to U of O. And to believe that a pitcher can not make adjustments from the advice of anyone between innings is ignorance. If that was the case there would be no need to bring multiple coaches tp pro and college games. Set the line up, assign players as base coaches, leave all but the head coach at home and play ball.
 

JAD

Feb 20, 2012
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Did he let his pitchers go into the stands so their dad could correct their brush interference in between innings

Colleges have a pitching coach on staff, so they are already in the dugout. In TB and HS ball there is a 98.2% chance the coaching staff has no clue what brush interference even is....go ask your DD's coach what his/her opinion is on brush interference and wait for the blank expression on their face.
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Greenmonsters

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Feb 21, 2009
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Yeah, you are right. On several occasions last season I noticed Rick Pauly on his iPad watching reruns of I Love Lucy in the Georgia dugout during games. After all by the time the those pitchers and catchers get to the SEC they should have all the answers and be able to figure it out on their own.

They would or should have most of the answers if their TB, HS, rec, etc. coaches would ever stop micro-managing them!
 
Dec 12, 2012
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she said that the girl was out of the dugout talking to her parents in between innings.

This is missing some insight as to how the between inning conversations began. Pitcher induced? Did the coach ask her to go to her pitching coach? Did Mom/Dad flag her over to talk? If was anything but obsessive parental behavior I say what a shame.

Passing on a potential good pitcher simply because she was seeking to improve her performance between innings? Aren't pitchers told to told to go out the dug out and work on something between innings if they need to? If she was talking to anyone but Mom or Dad would it have been ok then?

If anyone knows DD's tendencies, it would be me. No one has caught her for as long as I have through all the stages of her pitching career. Would I go run to the dugout between innings and helicopter, of course not. Would I help DD if she came to me between innings and asked for help, you bet.

Personally, I'm getting tired of hearing that the parents shouldn't do anything but give a ride to the ball park and cheer. I realize that like any person, some people can make life miserable, but this could be a coach just as easily as a parent. The negative mojo towards parents is ridiculous. Sometimes coaches need to ask themselves if they are the problem instead of immediately labeling someone as "that parent".
 
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JJS

Jan 9, 2015
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Yeah, you are right. On several occasions last season I noticed Rick Pauly on his iPad watching reruns of I Love Lucy in the Georgia dugout during games. After all by the time the those pitchers and catchers get to the SEC they should have all the answers and be able to figure it out on their own.

This is the biggest problem I see with parents today. Many think they are Rick Pauly. They think that they know better than the coaches.
 
Feb 17, 2014
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This is the biggest problem I see with parents today. Many think they are Rick Pauly. They think that they know better than the coaches.

With respect to pitching many bucket parents do in fact know much more than the coaches. Unless the coaches DD is a pitcher or catcher most coaches have zero interest in the development of skill positions. Failing the coach developing players in these positions it is up to the parent to step in and make sure at a minimum the coaches do not make things worse.
 

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