I'm an assistant coach on a 10-U travel ball team. Last night we played a game with a slower pitcher which needed the girls to move up in the box as the ball was dropping in by their knees for no swing strikes. I instructed the girls before our inning at bat to move up which I verbally reminded them of when coaching first.
One girl completely ignored the advice and ended up striking out looking. She has been struggling as Dad has her in baseball hitting instruction and us upcutting on everything thrown. This has made her very frustrated adding to her already temperamental demeanor. Anyway during her sit off between innings she came up to me and said "can you say something positive to me during my at bats". Needless to say I was little taken back and calmly explained that I was just trying to help her and explained that as a coach we need to make adjustments so that we have the best success. I explained I was not singling her out or being negative but trying to help and that all the girls got the same message.
After the game I spoke to the head coach about the incident and to add to it our manager overheard the father instruct the girl to tell that message to me.
I want the head coach to address the issue with the parent tonight before our game. He is worried that he will upset the Dad and he will quit the team before our championships as she is our 2nd best pitcher.
How would u address. Do I just keep my mouth and keep the peace? Or insist it get addressed?