That's awesome I'm so tired of all the negativity in little girls sports too.Was at my nephew's game the other day. Opposing team was making noise right as the pitcher was making his delivery. Ump gave the bench a warning, and it stopped right there. He told them cheer your team on, but slam the bench during the pitch, and I'll send you packing.
Saw where a team and coach were upset at another team, for having "poor sportsmanship". Coach said it's NOT OK to scream at a pitcher as she delivers the ball, or beat on a metal roof of the dugout with balls and bats to "intimidate" the pitcher and players. I see nothing wrong with this at all. I much rather my team be "LOUD and Engaged" during the game. As long as they aren't being negative in cheers to the other team, I think it adds to the "ORA" of fast pitch. BUT what I do call poor sportsmanship is a base coach yelling to the batter, where the catcher sets up. "INSIDE....OUTSIDE.....MIDDLE" ......that ticks me off. I've played lots of teams that bang on the roof, Its called "having fun"! just my opinion.
USA softball does not allow noise makers to be used, and equipment is intended to be used as designed. Balls and bats are not manufactured to be used to beat on benches, dugout roofs, fences etc. And, there is also a rule about yelling time or any other phrase in an attempt to get the pitcher to commit an illegal pitch.
I find it ironic you are ok with attempting to distract the pitcher, but find it unsportsmanlike to relay pitch location to the batter.
Our distraction of the pitcher, is our girls singing songs as we bat. usually Christmas songs, sometimes TV show tunes, nothing out of the way, or getting louder as she pitches.