17yr. Old wants to return after having baby

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Should a player be allowed to return after having a baby?

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    Votes: 67 94.4%
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Apr 28, 2016
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We have a 17yr. wanting to return to our 18u select team. She just had a baby, and even though she is/was a D1 prospect, we don't believe she fits into the ethical and moral standards we try to uphold. What would you do in this situation?
 
Oct 3, 2011
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First off, who's ethics and who's morals? Yours? Secondly, what gives you the right to impose them on others? Third, she obviously fit them before she had a baby so what has changed? Fourth, if you think that other girls on your team, at that age, aren't having sex then you need to pull your head out of the sand. This one was just unlucky enough to be caught at it in the worst possible way.

TB or a select team is about softball not the players' personal lives. Yes, you have to worry about team chemistry, but you already know she's a part of it and a successful one at that.

Being a D1 prospect, you'd be a fool to turn her away. But if you do, send her my way. I have room for her.
 
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Jun 12, 2015
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If you were the baseball coach and the father of the baby played, would you have kicked him off the team for getting a girl a pregnant? I highly doubt it. It's ridiculous to me that you think turning her into a pariah is somehow the moral or ethical thing to do. She had a baby, she didn't murder anyone.
 
May 13, 2012
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Have to agree with others. Her having a baby has nothing to do with softball. Did/do you have a team rule against pregnancy. If not and she has the skills to make the team then she makes the team as anyone else. On the backside of that, like everyone else she will need to be able to meet all team requirements of attendance that is applied to everyone. I dont feel you can count it against her nor can she count it against you and the team in meeting her end of the team requirements. But that is for her to decide not you.
 
Jun 22, 2015
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You have a moral and ethical obligation to allow her to return and try to get her life back together for her and her child. Who do you think is going to be responsible for that baby?? Don't you think getting some sort of money for school if that is poss would help out a single teen mother??? All that being aside who are you to judge, she didn't break any laws - her life will be difficult enough.


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Oct 13, 2014
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Have to agree with others. Her having a baby has nothing to do with softball. Did/do you have a team rule against pregnancy. If not and she has the skills to make the team then she makes the team as anyone else. On the backside of that, like everyone else she will need to be able to meet all team requirements of attendance that is applied to everyone. I dont feel you can count it against her nor can she count it against you and the team in meeting her end of the team requirements. But that is for her to decide not you.

Agree with the post above.

Are you worried about her morals/ethics or something else? Naming your concerns will help with you decision. For example: are you concerned she is in the physical shape required to play? Are you concerned child-care will be an issue?

Even if these are your concerns, doesn't she deserve a chance to prove these are false?
 
Sep 29, 2014
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Well no real need to pile on but I'm am pretty sure those moral standards you are trying to uphold start with...above all things Love

No need to get on some kind of moral high horse, hopefully she has a support system in place and she is getting back in shape, if it looks like she can still play welcome her back with open arms
 

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