Playing Poorly-Afterwards
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WARRIORMIKE
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Correct
But what should be the consequences if any?? Does it differ from Rec to travel?
JJsqueeze
Dad, Husband....legend
It all depends on the situation, I don't believe in berating a lot, I also don't believe that just putting on a uniform constitutes a good job. There is a time to get on 'em, there is a time to praise a loss, there is a time to let them know their win was lucky and there is a time to tell them they kick butt. So many variables. It's like so many other things in life, it is mostly shades of grey and rarely black and white. In general I praise effort, focus and growth. I berate when a girl makes a mental mistake that I know she can avoid. I have told my teams that we lost a game because of my bad decisions, I've told them we lost a game because of team hustle and I have told a team that specific girls let them down. I will praise a lower level kid for doing getting to the right spot on a missed fly ball and have yelled my lungs out at an advanced kid for doing the exact same thing. One size does definitely not fit all.
Not trying to be rude, but you actually told girls they lost the game for the team? Wow, sorry but I wouldn't have taken that too well.
JJsqueeze
Dad, Husband....legend
None taken- I absolutely called them out. We had an 11-0 lead going into the last inning and our pitchers both broke down and we lost 12-11. pitcher #1 is my DD and #2 was HCs DD (I was AC). After HC told the team "we win and lose as a team". I said we usually win and lose as a team but this one was on my DD and HCs DD for throwing the game away. It is actually what happened. How does the SS or RF have anything to do with 10 walks, 3 HBPs and an assortment of wild pitches? Truth is truth and I trust the girls to know what is going on, I actually believe we lose credibility as coaches when we dispense platitudes. Sometimes one or two players really do blow it and we should be honest, It's not like the girls didn't notice all the walks. Once again, one size does not fit all and all situations are grey. For the record, I am also effusive with praise and will point out individual girls at the end of the game when they do good jobs. I don't care if my DDs become college players. I do care that they use their team sports to learn about delayed gratification, being a good teammate, learning how to deal with pressure and how to take responsibility for their actions. I am raising women, not sissies.
- Jan 24, 2011
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I can agree with most all of this with the exception of calling out a specific girl for losing the game
Well to each his own, do you not think both pitchers knew? Or did you just have to remind them? I bet if you go back and ask your DD if she had already felt horrible about her pitching... how did she feel after you did that?
Where was your #3 pitcher? Or did a team with a HC dd and an AC dd as 1 and 2 not need one all year?
You win as a team and you lose as a team, including the coaches who didn't have an option to go to when 1 and 2 broke down. Berating is never good, ever. I'm not perfect, I've lost my cool on a team or two, but I knew I was wrong right away.
