- Jul 16, 2018
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So hey, I love this forum. I've learned alot in a short time. Both good and bad.
I grew up playing baseball and I have a HS senior on the cusp of playing college baseball. I thought with my daughter it would be the same. However, As I dig more and more softball is just an entirely different beast. Coaches dont want to coach, you have to go to specific instructors blah blah blah. Dont get me wrong baseball is the same way however in baseball if you're an athlete a spot will be found for you. Thats simply not been my experience as well.
As a biased "sports dad" my daughter has many attributes you simply cannot teach. The game is slow to her. Even at 11 she has shared the field with 16 year olds and has held her own. I dont say that to brag (well maybe a little bit) but at the same time Im just trying to relay the type of girl she is.
Here's her problem - One minute shes talking about winning championships at Oklahoma then 2 seconds later she talks about how she is quitting because she doesnt like it. Personally I always worry about myself putting too much pressure on my children. I fully believe that us parents are the reason why many kids quit sports. So recently I've taken a complete 180 and simply backed off. We were playing for a team that was a couple of hours away who was more than willing to work with her cheerleading schedule (yes I know thats demanding but more on that later) and would allow her to play pretty good competition at the A level. Due to the flip flopping I have notified the coach that I am pulling her however, after talking with her yesterday she told me she wants to go with them this weekend and play in the tournament.
My daughter has a future in this game if she wants it. However there seems to be an issue which is causing her uncertainty. and i cant quite put my finger on it. I have gone as far as to advise her to take the fall off and think about the spring and as I said before I've told the coach of the team that with her uncertainty right now that we would pull her. Just FYI - local teams are definitely out of the question since they refuse to work with her on her cheerleading schedule which I already know is definitely tough. (Yes I know she has to make a decision but shes only 11 she has time)
I am asking for advice but im not looking for the "just do what she wants" because no duh.
Have you faced this situation before? Tell me your story!
I grew up playing baseball and I have a HS senior on the cusp of playing college baseball. I thought with my daughter it would be the same. However, As I dig more and more softball is just an entirely different beast. Coaches dont want to coach, you have to go to specific instructors blah blah blah. Dont get me wrong baseball is the same way however in baseball if you're an athlete a spot will be found for you. Thats simply not been my experience as well.
As a biased "sports dad" my daughter has many attributes you simply cannot teach. The game is slow to her. Even at 11 she has shared the field with 16 year olds and has held her own. I dont say that to brag (well maybe a little bit) but at the same time Im just trying to relay the type of girl she is.
Here's her problem - One minute shes talking about winning championships at Oklahoma then 2 seconds later she talks about how she is quitting because she doesnt like it. Personally I always worry about myself putting too much pressure on my children. I fully believe that us parents are the reason why many kids quit sports. So recently I've taken a complete 180 and simply backed off. We were playing for a team that was a couple of hours away who was more than willing to work with her cheerleading schedule (yes I know thats demanding but more on that later) and would allow her to play pretty good competition at the A level. Due to the flip flopping I have notified the coach that I am pulling her however, after talking with her yesterday she told me she wants to go with them this weekend and play in the tournament.
My daughter has a future in this game if she wants it. However there seems to be an issue which is causing her uncertainty. and i cant quite put my finger on it. I have gone as far as to advise her to take the fall off and think about the spring and as I said before I've told the coach of the team that with her uncertainty right now that we would pull her. Just FYI - local teams are definitely out of the question since they refuse to work with her on her cheerleading schedule which I already know is definitely tough. (Yes I know she has to make a decision but shes only 11 she has time)
I am asking for advice but im not looking for the "just do what she wants" because no duh.
Have you faced this situation before? Tell me your story!