Sent DD off to school last week. Tomorrow starts the fall workouts. I did a really good job hanging back and letting the kid do her thing her Sr HS season, and let loose a bit more for her "farewell" travel tour...but this will be different. At just over 2 hrs away, I now cant even watch practices even if allowed. It feels so odd to be this disconnected from her softball. I have no real fears, i think she will be fine. As an 18yr old, she feels pretty much invincible. I can now only ask how its going and wait until they play in Oct for the "eye test". This letting go stuff is tough on a parent. At least i get to take DD2 to batting tomorrow..that will help a bit
Anxiety and excitement....mine, not hers
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You will be fine...good luck!!
On a related note, did you really go and watch her HS practices.....?
No, i didnt. Didnt mean to imply i did. Winter workouts with her travel team i did watch, so i knew where she was before HS started. As far as the HS players, i already knew all of them and where DD stacked up. The college thing is just different. Without the eye test, just not sure exactly where we are in relation to the others.
Right there with you... DD is also a freshman currently participating in fall work outs. Stressful and exciting at the same time.
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I hear you. I don't even bother watching my 9 YO DD practice with her TB team
I see her enough when I am working with her and in her games...she doesn't need Dad hovering
around practice. Plus I have a hard time controlling myself when I hear her coach yelling "get in front of the ball" when my DD properly backhands a ball in the hole.... I bring my laptop, go to a nearby coffee shop and post on DFP
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My favorite is asking them how its going and all you get back is “good”.
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So true! Except with my daughter we get one of four responses.
1) "Eh" = things not going well
2) "Eh, fine" = going ok; just got this one this morning
3) "Fine" = actually going pretty well
4) "Good!" = things are going about as well as possible
And seriously these are universal and consistent answers. Questions could be as diverse as "how does your arm feel?" "how did your econ class final go?" "how do the new freshmen look?" We get one of the four answers above.
Asking your DD questions in such a way as to elicit maximum information is a true art form.Andy
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So true! Except with my daughter we get one of four responses.
1) "Eh" = things not going well
2) "Eh, fine" = going ok; just got this one this morning
3) "Fine" = actually going pretty well
4) "Good!" = things are going about as well as possible
And seriously these are universal and consistent answers. Questions could be as diverse as "how does your arm feel?" "how did your econ class final go?" "how do the new freshmen look?" We get one of the four answers above.
Andy
Funny how parents can read into the manner in which their kids say things rather than the actual words used. I am 43 and whenever I talk to my parents on the phone or skype my kids are typically around so I try to keep from saying too much negative. However 9 out of 10 times when things are not going so great, regardless of what I said on the phone/skype, my Mom will send an e-mail or call me at my office the next asking if everything is ok....
