Managing expectations

ambern11 said:

I always joke with people that the best thing my DD could do is play soccer....I literally don't even know how many people are supposed to be on the field for that game

I do coach DD, and during practice and games I treat her like any other player. It surprises me all the talk I hear of coaches favoring their DD over other players because if anything I feel like I am the exact opposite of that.

My expectations are unrealistic for her. As long as she tries hard and puts forth an effort, I keep my mouth shut and always try and find something positive to say. You made a great play, that was a great throw, way to hustle to that ball. Eventually I feel like I will be coaching a team without her on it because she just doesn't seem interested in anything other than watching TV and being on her computer, but for now, I am trying to encourage and make it fun.

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BT3100 said:

My DD batted .398(second highest average on the team) with 9 hrs at the 14uA national level... Coach would find a reason to bat her at or near the bottom of the lineup every game... reason?
He didn't like how her swing looked..
His kid hit .275 but had a pretty swing and would occupy #5 or #6 spot every game
It's the main reason we left him...
Your kid will Battle that her entire travel ball career. Dad's who know it all...
To me results are all that matter.

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Fastpitch_Dad said:

Patter,
Honestly I think any parent that is on this site suffers from the same flaws as you have described with different intensity levels.

My advice...you have to learn that neither you or a coach can “fix” your DD as a player.

Embrace the realization that coaching and teaching players at this age does not have as much impact as you think it does!!! I look back on photos and video of my DD over 10u and 12u and I see improved mechanics but it is clearly the same kid and tendencies.

Go manic on this site, leave it for a week, binge again, and then leave for a week.
[MENTION=10413]riseball[/MENTION] made a comment about pitchers aren’t made until the age of 14 (rough interpretation) and that has stuck with me. My DD is just now going into 14u and softball is clearly her sport and not mine. I have kept my OCD in check and try to sit back and watch games like I was a grand parent and enjoy the experience of watching.

Good luck


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riseball said:

Well said. My advice to parents of young ones is to not attempt to develop them, just do enough to keep them from getting screwed up. It needs to be fun and free of bad habits.

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pattar said:

Except in this case the know-it-all Dad is actually her Dad..unless that is what you meant

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