Things you would do different for your daughter if you could go back in time.

Fort83 said:

I think most of us parents make decisions over time that is better for the team then for our kids.

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What state do you live in?? In my experience, it is the exact opposite. As parents, we are always making decisions that we think will be in our own DD’s best interest, not the team’s.

I am guilty of this- 4 years, 4 different TB teams. Each situation was somewhat different and I always thought that I was doing what was best for my DD- whether that was getting away from team drama, higher level playing, better coaching(hopefully).

One year in particular, she had coaches that were all supportive and nice, the parents and players were great to her and appreciated what she brought to the team. We were a mixed age group and half of us were aging out. I wasn’t sure if we would be able to field a team, but quite honestly, I wanted more for her.

This was an ideal situation for her to be one of the top players, but I wanted her to grow and learn more. Unfortunately, the desire to grow has come with its own set of challenges. I often wonder if I made a huge mistake. It is a game and should be enjoyable. Once you go down the competitive route, it gets cut throat and turns into a grind.



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This is a great thread. #1 would have been to find out about DFP a little sooner lol. #2 would be that I would not have coached my DD. She is a mini version of me and it was not a good experience for either of us. We butted heads, she would pout & cry, I would get mad, then I would get sad that I made her feel that way. We both enjoy the game more when I'm sitting behind the fence. I think as much as she has grown as a player I have grown as a parent. I have learned to chill out & just enjoy the game. We have both learned that failure is a big part of the game. Once you get past that it's all gravy. My younger kids will benefit from our experiences lol. #3 I wish I had gotten her on a better team her first year of 10U instead of taking a spot on the first team that asked.

#7sDad said:

Thanks, I may take you up on that. Do you qualify as a team or individual in order to go over?

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Individually and only by referral from former teammates or friends. DD played this past January and will be returning next year to play again.

Better genetics..Poor girl didn’t stand a chance with both mom and dad being so short.


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