OP here. We had an offer we were sitting on and yes, I know how some of you feel about sitting on offers. But DD had a private tryout with one of the Assistant coaches and we had not been able to meet the Head Coach or any of the girls. Although they are joining a solid (but not top-tier) org this year, we were just way too nervous about accepting an offer with knowing next to nothing about either the team itself or the coach. There was an Org tryout on Sunday and HC told me by text that he would not extend an offer to a catcher from that tryout until after he gives us right of first refusal. Cool, that's nice of him.
Monday night, we get a text saying he found a catcher at the Org Tryout who was willing to commit immediately, so he gave her the spot. I mean, what? It is so hard not to get disillusioned with this process. I don't know that we ultimately would have accepted the offer, but don't lie to me. Be honest and say hey, we're having an org tryout and I may offer the spot to someone else if we don't hear from you.
We have had several "you're still being considered, but we're looking at other catchers before we decide" responses from higher level teams. I'm starting to get nervous, but I think we have another week before we really have to worry and several tryouts scheduled for this weekend. Wish us luck!
Yea not saying anything on the sitting on the offer, but agree with the fact that if they said first right of refusal, then they should have honored that. Not sure why a coach would ever tell a parent that....
The comment about not having met the team or HC yet pretty much would have sealed the deal, for us anyway. I know we wouldn't have agreed to join a team if we didn't know the girls or the coach and my DD would feel the same way I'm sure. I've seen some teams that look great on paper, but it's a different story when you show up to watch a game or for a tryout.
After a tryout the first things always discussed in the car are "how do you feel you did" and "how were the other girls".