I've spent most of my time on the coach side of the fence, and am now just a parent. Whether I'm sitting on a bucket or in the bleachers, my kid earns her spot with her play on the field.
Last year, I was accused of being a "daddy ball" coach for the first time by a disgruntled mom. HC and I were amused about that assessment. Among the coaches, my opinion on anything ranked 3rd of 3, and I was never the final word on positions or batting order. Mom had a really hard time seeing how the overall team defense was way better with her kid playing IF rather than C.