I have known girls that had positive experiences during school ball. In fact, I also went to the school my kids are going to now. Yes, it was YEARS ago, haha, but our team was ok from what I remember and the players were proud to play for the team. Completely different coaching staff, but my point was to the fact that they had fun and enjoyed it. A few did go on to play college, not sure of the level though.
I fully believe that had the head coach been different and not put my DD through so much, she would still be playing. Her first experience in HS, on the Varsity team as a freshman at another school was WAY more positive. It was a team that was coached by a HC that I would say left a lot to be desired game knowledge wise, but it was a good group of girls and they had fun. They lost almost every game, but there was never any finger pointing as to a certain player lost the game, it was always positive.
After watching the HC of the college she has verbally committed to at multiple games and clinics, I can tell that he will be very positive, but also demanding. I have not seen anything to lead me to believe that there may be favoritism or politics on the team because again, of what I have seen in the games we have watched.