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    I have known girls that had positive experiences during school ball. In fact, I also went to the school my kids are going to now. Yes, it was YEARS ago, haha, but our team was ok from what I remember and the players were proud to play for the team. Completely different coaching staff, but my point was to the fact that they had fun and enjoyed it. A few did go on to play college, not sure of the level though.

    I fully believe that had the head coach been different and not put my DD through so much, she would still be playing. Her first experience in HS, on the Varsity team as a freshman at another school was WAY more positive. It was a team that was coached by a HC that I would say left a lot to be desired game knowledge wise, but it was a good group of girls and they had fun. They lost almost every game, but there was never any finger pointing as to a certain player lost the game, it was always positive.

    After watching the HC of the college she has verbally committed to at multiple games and clinics, I can tell that he will be very positive, but also demanding. I have not seen anything to lead me to believe that there may be favoritism or politics on the team because again, of what I have seen in the games we have watched.

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    MoparFin- sounds like our DDs are on the same team!
    DD#1 was a C and 1B. Her Sophmore year, she got a nasty concussion in January that kept her out until the last day of the season. JV coach had her catch, she struggled made mistakes but got thru it. Parents were brutal!
    DD#2 didn't think she wanted to come back for senior season even though she would be a 4-year starter and a 2-year captain, but wound up having surgery for T.O.S. which kept her out anyway, For medical reasons. No parents or fellow softball boosters ever asked about her, like she never existed.

    I wish she could've enjoyed being on that team, but I'm glad its behind us. after her surgery she missed close to 3 weeks of school, so she had to bust her hump making up work in the relatively short period of time before the term ended. She wound up pulling off straight A's, including her AP classes.
    This past weekend DD arrived in Switzerland fir a 2-week foreign exchange visit. According to her she was "driving go-carts around the French countryside" and judging by the photos, the weather is a lot better there than it is here(New England).
    So at the end of the day, sometimes there is more to life than softball.

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    If your kids have any aspirations of playing college ball they better figure out how to survive school ball
    Maybe. Ravenne Chavanne didn't. There is a wide variety of HS experiences out there. DD's best experience was as a freshman starter. The team was a "Team". Since then, leadership has waned and social pecking order has replaced team spirit. Also, DD is one of only two seniors who will be playing ball in college. Nobody else really cares. It is a glorified Rec team. Period.
    If she's on a College team if players who are there to play, she'll be fine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by obbay View Post
    MoparFin- sounds like our DDs are on the same team!
    DD#1 was a C and 1B. Her Sophmore year, she got a nasty concussion in January that kept her out until the last day of the season. JV coach had her catch, she struggled made mistakes but got thru it. Parents were brutal!
    DD#2 didn't think she wanted to come back for senior season even though she would be a 4-year starter and a 2-year captain, but wound up having surgery for T.O.S. which kept her out anyway, For medical reasons. No parents or fellow softball boosters ever asked about her, like she never existed.

    I wish she could've enjoyed being on that team, but I'm glad its behind us. after her surgery she missed close to 3 weeks of school, so she had to bust her hump making up work in the relatively short period of time before the term ended. She wound up pulling off straight A's, including her AP classes.
    This past weekend DD arrived in Switzerland fir a 2-week foreign exchange visit. According to her she was "driving go-carts around the French countryside" and judging by the photos, the weather is a lot better there than it is here(New England).
    So at the end of the day, sometimes there is more to life than softball.
    My DD 1 was also much happier when she gave up softball. First, she missed all the drama of HS softball. Then, she went into a scholarship program she couldn't have done if she had been on a TB team, getting her a full ride at her first-choice school (Wisconsin). Then, she spent last summer volunteering in a Tibetan medical clinic in India in the foothills of the Himalayas.

    Life is much better for her without the drama.

    My home office is in DD 1's former bedroom. It used to be DD 3's nursery. Before that, it was the nursery for the DD of the previous owner, who was DD 1's first softball coach. So three girls have lived in this room, all three played softball, and all three quit the softball program at the local HS pretty early on because of all the drama.

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    In a weird way, I find the annual "My DD's HS softball team is a nightmare" both upsetting and comforting.

    Upsetting in that there are SO many bad HS softball programs all around the US.

    Comforting in that misery loves company. So I know my kids' HS program isn't unique.

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    That's pretty funny Bob.

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    I feel for everyone that's ever had an issue with HS coaching. I went into the experience thinking that I was going to be a good parent and let the coaches coach and just be a dad. It's not that easy when your DD is a pitcher who has been successful with drops & changeups for much of her travel career only for the HS coach to insist she throw high screwballs & curves only to have them rocked. 13 HR in 32 IP that includes 6 HR in 1 game so far and there is no end in sight. The coach won't listen to anyone about her pitch calling. The insane part of my brain feels like my child is getting abused.

    If you've had a good HS experience, I envy you right now.

    I feel for everyone that has had a bad experience.

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    I guess I really feel sorry for the ladies who had a bad college experience, and there were a few of their dads on this forum in the past.

    I mean, with HS ball, at least the girl has a TB team to fall back on. With college ball, it is that team or nothing. For some, if they quit it means lose a scholarship.

    For my DD 1, quitting softball made getting a scholarship easier, since it removed things that took up her time.

    My all-time biggest college team woe story:

    One of my friends growing up came from a real serious basketball family. He was the second of five boys, and all played round ball. The joke was the family was a basketball team. My friend's father and older brother coached my elementary school team (where I played the important Deep Pine position).

    Anyway, older brother was a real bball whiz. His team won their division in the Arkansas state championships. In those days the 4 champions would play each other for the Grand Championship. His HS team lost to Sidney Moncreiff's HS team.

    So, the kid gets on the Razorbacks. Plays mostly Deep Pine. Gets to the Final Four on a team with Sidney Moncreiff. They come in 3rd place, have a ticker tape parade in Little Rock, my friend's brother is in the Deep Pine car along with Houston Nutt.

    It turns out my friend's brother had a HUGE problem with the AC he worked with every day. So, the guy transfers, has to sit out a year, then, when he is ready to play, his college hires a new coach! One guess as to who the new coach is.

    Yup. That's right. His old AC, the guy he transferred schools to get away from.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vertigo View Post
    Our season has been a little tough so far. Our conference is all private schools who recruit like crazy, except our school does not give scholarships for SB recruits since it is not one of their perennial strong sports.
    Are you sure about the recruiting and scholarships?
    That is usually considered highly "illegal" by the state athletic associations both private and public.
    There's always one in every crowd.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Strike2 View Post
    Although I'm sure there are some out there with good experiences, I don't know a single parent or player who is happy with HS ball. This includes those who make the starting lineup.
    We are happy, but you don't know us and yes DD has been a 4 year Varsity starter at 2 different schools.
    Is is perfect? No.
    Does the HS coach do everything right? No.
    Is the HS game strategy good? Usually No.
    Is DD happy? Yes.
    There's always one in every crowd.

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