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Jul 14, 2017
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I know it is unreasonable to you dear mil, but DD cannot miss her game to go to the communion party. Rains out? Sure! Meet you later? Of course. Just miss it? Nope.




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Oct 11, 2010
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Chicago, IL
Everyone has their own priorities.

Games must really mean something for DD to miss a communion. After party she will be at game.

You should have asked MIL why she did not come to the games and skip communion party.

Only reason to miss a game is if someone dies, needs to be in your immediate family, has always been BS IMO.

Just our priorities.

If we want to start an MIL complaint and compliment thread I am all in. Dang MIL comes to most DD's games.
 
Nov 29, 2009
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I know it is unreasonable to you dear mil, but DD cannot miss her game to go to the communion party. Rains out? Sure! Meet you later? Of course. Just miss it? Nope.

I'm going to assume the party is for a family member and not your DD. What does the wife say? That's the important variable to the situation. Can she tell her mother to relax and your DD will get there as soon as she can? Has your M-I-L ever gone and watched your DD play?

Sometimes it's hard for someone whose never had a serious athlete to understand the commitment they make to whatever sport they play. My F-I-L lived with us for a while. He could never understand why everything was about softball. He never went to any of my DD's games. Heck, when his own son played hockey he never went to any of his games. He just never understood. It sounds like your M-I-L needs to be made aware your DD has HER priorities and will do her best to try and make the party.
 
Feb 20, 2015
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I'm going to assume the party is for a family member and not your DD. What does the wife say? That's the important variable to the situation. Can she tell her mother to relax and your DD will get there as soon as she can? Has your M-I-L ever gone and watched your DD play?

Sometimes it's hard for someone whose never had a serious athlete to understand the commitment they make to whatever sport they play. My F-I-L lived with us for a while. He could never understand why everything was about softball. He never went to any of my DD's games. Heck, when his own son played hockey he never went to any of his games. He just never understood. It sounds like your M-I-L needs to be made aware your DD has HER priorities and will do her best to try and make the party.


Yep, I think that most people when they think of softball they think of the error fest of Rec level 10 years olds throwing the ball all over the place. Most people who don't have kids involved don't understand the level of play and seriousness that most TB parents/kids view the game.
 
Aug 19, 2015
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Atlanta, GA
My sister is getting married this summer and DD is in the wedding. Of course, I'm already fretting about Coach's reaction when I tell him what she has to miss. I guess the team will have to do without her for Friday night and Saturday. Sometimes, the team can't play if one kid is out (especially a pitcher or catcher).
 
Apr 24, 2017
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Georgia
My sister is getting married this summer and DD is in the wedding. Of course, I'm already fretting about Coach's reaction when I tell him what she has to miss. I guess the team will have to do without her for Friday night and Saturday. Sometimes, the team can't play if one kid is out (especially a pitcher or catcher).

Tell them now! We appreciate ALL of the advance notice we can get when someone is out. And since it is something that you clearly know about well in advance, it is easy to let coach know. Then he can either change the schedule if needed or pick up a player. If you wait until it has been paid for, usually you aren't getting all of your money back.
 
Aug 10, 2016
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Georgia
My brother is getting married this summer and it's the weekend of a State Tournament. Luckily the tournament is about an hour from where they are getting married so DD could possibly play morning pool games but would miss the start of bracket play :/ Just trying to figure out how we are all going to change and not smell since I would play to drive straight to the wedding from the fields ;)
She is a C and SS and we do have 3 other catchers so she can miss but I'm sure her HC will be unhappy. She almost had to miss morning games a couple of weekends ago for a school function and HC was like - just have her miss it (but it was for a grade so no way was she going to miss). Luckily it rained and delayed the games so DD just missed part of warm-ups.
 
Aug 19, 2015
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Atlanta, GA
Tell them now! We appreciate ALL of the advance notice we can get when someone is out. And since it is something that you clearly know about well in advance, it is easy to let coach know. Then he can either change the schedule if needed or pick up a player. If you wait until it has been paid for, usually you aren't getting all of your money back.

We will for sure. Currently only scheduled for practice that weekend, but HC has been known to add tourneys last minute. He still doesn't want kids missing practice either, but this is really a can't miss event (or else I'd be in the doghouse with my family forever).
 
Jan 30, 2018
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People that don't have kids that play serious sports never seem to get it. My DD, 10u then, played in an elite tournament the same day she attended her grandmother's (they were very close) funeral. I had mixed emotions about letting her play and left it up to her and she chose to play. It turned out to be a good choice. To be honest I shed some tears as her teammates and some friends from another team presented her a care package to make her feel better and they dedicated a game to her grandmother. I caught all kind of flack from family members for letting her play but it was better than sitting around crying all day.
 
Jul 16, 2013
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Pennsylvania
We will for sure. Currently only scheduled for practice that weekend, but HC has been known to add tourneys last minute. He still doesn't want kids missing practice either, but this is really a can't miss event (or else I'd be in the doghouse with my family forever).

As a coach, prior to every season I ask each player/family for a list of dates that they are not available; vacations, special events, etc. I also ask them to notify me of any changes. We build our schedule based on the information provided by the families. I rarely make any changes to the tournament schedule, but have due to some weird events (that's for another discussion). But prior to making those changes, I recheck with each and every player/family before making a commitment. If I would schedule a tournament for a weekend that I don't have enough players available, that would be on me, not on the families.
 

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