Huh?
We had a thread entitled, "My DD's coach convinced me I was wrong" back in '06...I think.
Confusing Situation With Senior Daughter Not Getting Playing Time On HS Team
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Huh?
We had a thread entitled, "My DD's coach convinced me I was wrong" back in '06...I think.
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But what you think doesn't matter. The only thing that does is what the person making the decision thinks. You're not going to change their mind by giving them your opinion especially if that involves another player. The only thing you can do is go to work and hope your performance changes their opinion.
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I knew beforehand that I shouldn't have talked to the coach but I was getting disgusted with the situation. I don't think I hurt her situation because it was apparently in motion anyway. She's a senior and it wasn't going to make a difference one way or another. The argument if you want to call it that went a different direction when they (the coaches) apparently tried to bring things up that made no sense whatsoever to the situation. A second assistant, who was here last year, t least said he know my daughter will make those tough catches but he said nothing else. I even asked the head coach if the assistant coach asked his opinion if she didn't know who played where and when if she wasn't here last year. She said she does. Well, I just heard something positive come out of his mouth but I guess it didn't matter at that point. This is not the first time there have been problem's with the athletic director's daughter. She has missed some practices because of track but she still plays. She has missed softball practices to play travel volleyball but still gets to play softball. She's good at a lot of things but not great. Plus she only interacts with one other player on the team. It almost seems like she is there just so she can get another award or have the coach nominate her for an all-star game, like in volleyball in basketball. It is just very frustrating.
College softball might still be an option but I think she make the right choice for now.
And within that thread were there stories about kids taking care of problems on their own and parents not getting involved?
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With regards to quitting, I don't think that's the right answer either. I know that a lot of what we are trying to do here is use these sports to teach our DD's life lessons. HS softball is not like real life in that you can't quit and go play some where else. With a job you can quit and go get another one. With HS softball, you quit and you're not playing HS softball any where else.
Quitting reflects on you. I wouldn't want that to be reflected on my DD. I would want my DD to be the best teammate and cheer leader for her teammates. Some times life just doesn't go your way. I want my DD to be Brittany Rogers.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b6VhKtCkE20
Quitting reflects on you. I wouldn't want that to be reflected on my DD. I would want my DD to be the best teammate and cheer leader for her teammates. Some times life just doesn't go your way. I want my DD to be Brittany Rogers.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b6VhKtCkE20
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I'm still waiting for some threads titled "My kid is playing but she shouldn't be" just to balance things out a bit 
In all seriousness, I am not sure what kind of advice you are looking for at this point. You talked to the coach, I wouldn't have, but you
did doesn't make you a horrible person. You know the options she has 1) Quit 2) Maintain status quo, hopefully enjoy her friends and move on
3) ramp up her commitment level e.g. extra BP,fielding, workouts etc. May not help but at least she can tell herself
she did everything she could to get back on the field and wouldn't have any regrets. That choice should be your DD's alone.
In all seriousness, I am not sure what kind of advice you are looking for at this point. You talked to the coach, I wouldn't have, but you
did doesn't make you a horrible person. You know the options she has 1) Quit 2) Maintain status quo, hopefully enjoy her friends and move on
3) ramp up her commitment level e.g. extra BP,fielding, workouts etc. May not help but at least she can tell herself
she did everything she could to get back on the field and wouldn't have any regrets. That choice should be your DD's alone.
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#Holy Toledo,
And btw, welcome to DFP! You chose a very tough first post! While we always don't agree with each other, and sometimes can be a bit sarcastic with one another, we all have one thing in common... we love our warrior princess goddess DD's and want the best for them. And overall, DFP is a supportive community.
So this is a great thread, and as you can see we've all been in your shoes in some fashion, which is why it's sparked so much response.
Please stay, and give us updates on how your DD's season is going. I hope she kicks butt.
And btw, welcome to DFP! You chose a very tough first post! While we always don't agree with each other, and sometimes can be a bit sarcastic with one another, we all have one thing in common... we love our warrior princess goddess DD's and want the best for them. And overall, DFP is a supportive community.
So this is a great thread, and as you can see we've all been in your shoes in some fashion, which is why it's sparked so much response.
Please stay, and give us updates on how your DD's season is going. I hope she kicks butt.
reverse the roles. Are you ok with player A's parents going to the coach to talk about your daughter without your presence? Its not going to be a conversation telling the coach how wonderful your dd is. It will be with negative tones.
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I don't really have anything against the coaches who have rules about parents talking to them about certain things. Yes, my daughter could have talked to the coach as well but would it have changed anything. My guess is that it wouldn't. I believe she would have received the same used up lines - work harder, extra practice, etc. My daughter had been in offseason softball with the coach and was playing travel ball prior to her injury, the AD's daughter was not. The coach knew what she was getting from my daughter. She had no idea what she was getting from the AD's daughter.
You're right, how could she punish my daughter any further with just me talking to her. It was already happening. I guess what upsets me a little more is that there is very little communication between the coach and the players. It's not existent with the parents for sure. Like I mentioned, the coach never once in several opportunities said anything about my daughter's injury to my wife or I. I would have expected something like I hope she get's better, she's moving around pretty good, I hope to see her at practice soon - just something but she never said a word. For me that tell me that at least she cares about what happened but there was none of that.
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MY DD will definitely stick with it. Quitting is really not an option she wishes to pursue. She does enjoy the camaraderie no doubt but doesn't it seem that you get treated a little different when all of the sudden your sitting on the bench for no apparent reason. Maybe things will change a bit but there's only a month and half left.
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