Some people brought up the point as to whether parents should get involved.
That is a tricky issue.
I can think of coaches who INSIST it has to be the kids, esp. at the HS level, and not the parents. Some even get indignant and self-righteous about it.
But then, one sees that those coaches tend to respond more when parents DO get involved.
I'm not sure you can make the point that coaches respond more to parents. The truth is, we only hear about some of the outcomes here. No one writes a long paragraph about my kid had an issue and went to the coach or a teacher and the coach saw it her way.
Example, my dd was a senior in HS and we went to parent teacher conference, Her counselor stopped us and went though this long explanation of a situation my dd had with a dual enrollment class and how he hopes the solution to that situation was satisfactory. My wife and I had no idea what he was talking about. My dd went to him, got the problem resolved and it was done. She never brought it up.
I guess long story short, do we always know when the dd has taken care of it? do we talk about it here? Does it feel like a small thing when the kids take care of it, but a big deal when we can't?