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WARRIORMIKE

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Oct 5, 2009
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At the Jewel in San Diego
Ok so my dd lost her glove at the park on Saturday after team practice. It is an expensive glove. Shes had the glove for three years and it was fairly broken in. With of course normal wear and tear. I've always told my dd to treat her equipment with TLC. Never abuse it and never forget it. Which up until recently she has. I want to ground her, or take her phone away (which to a teenage girl is like end of the world) or make her work for a new one.


Question to you, if your dd lost her glove or any personal equipment, what should be the consequences? What have you done in the past?
 
Apr 24, 2017
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Georgia
Make her work for a new one is my suggestion. She has to have it, so go ahead and buy it. Then let her "work it off". Keep a balance sheet clearly visible for everyone, and give chores/jobs a monetary value. She has to do these jobs whenever/wherever you say until it is paid off. When my daughter broke her phone (because of carelessness, not a true accident) we did this. Since it was an issue of her being careless, she had to pay for half of the replacement. If you were close to buying her a new glove anyway, maybe split the cost with her.
 
Oct 11, 2010
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Chicago, IL
If it is a one time occourance I would let it slide.

Worse case she would share in the cost of a new glove, you can pick the percentage.

DD keeps good track of her stuff too but there can be a lot going on sometimes.

(Over the winter I was wandering around the LL baseball warehouse and found a softball catching mitt which they had no use for, someone left it a the park and never claimed it. Maybe I have her glove. :))
 
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Sep 29, 2014
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Answer is always it depends has she every done this in the past? Is she generally responsible? Is this a habit of losing things and not taking care of things? If this is the first time every or in 3 or 4 years I might be tempted to let it go...but let her know this is strike one...three strike and she will have to pay the piper.
 
Jun 6, 2016
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Chicago
If she's normally responsible and made one mistake, I wouldn't be too rough with the "punishment."

I like the idea of getting the glove, but making her "work it off" somehow.

I may not be the one to ask though. Last year I left my glove of 20 years at the park after a practice. Then a week later I left my "new" glove (a used glove, but it was really nice) at a different park after one of my slow pitch games. Neither glove was recovered.
 

JAD

Feb 20, 2012
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Georgia
One of DD's teammates left her glove in the dugout after a game and after a few phone calls we tracked down the team that had the field after us and their HC had the glove. You may want to reach out to parks and rec department to see if they have a lost and found and can give you the number to the team who has the field after y'all.
 
Apr 24, 2017
203
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Georgia
Ok so my dd lost her glove at the park on Saturday after team practice. It is an expensive glove. Shes had the glove for three years and it was fairly broken in. With of course normal wear and tear. I've always told my dd to treat her equipment with TLC. Never abuse it and never forget it. Which up until recently she has. I want to ground her, or take her phone away (which to a teenage girl is like end of the world) or make her work for a new one.


Question to you, if your dd lost her glove or any personal equipment, what should be the consequences? What have you done in the past?

Since you specifically said you want there to be some consequences, I did not mention giving her a pass. If she never does this sort of thing and is responsible, then maybe she gets a pass. I still think if it were me, we would split the cost of the glove somehow. We are raising good, responsible adults. And no one is going to just say "Oh no, you left your laptop at the library and someone took it! Well, here is a new one free of cost. I hate that you forgot it. But next time, let's remember it instead!" I really like there to be some type of real world consequence. And splitting the cost of the glove with her softens that real world consequence for a growing teen who is definitely going to make mistakes along the way. Just my two cents :)
 
Oct 11, 2010
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Chicago, IL
I may not be the one to ask though. Last year I left my glove of 20 years at the park after a practice. Then a week later I left my "new" glove (a used glove, but it was really nice) at a different park after one of my slow pitch games. Neither glove was recovered.

I can understand losing or forgetting glove after practice, mine has a habit of disappearing and I need to go find it.

How the heck do you leave your glove after a slow pitch game? How much stuff do you bring to a slow pitch game? A glove and a bat. I am thinking beer was involved.
 
Jun 6, 2016
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Chicago
I can understand losing or forgetting glove after practice, mine has a habit of disappearing and I need to go find it.

How the heck do you leave your glove after a slow pitch game? How much stuff do you bring to a slow pitch game? A glove and a bat. I am thinking beer was involved.

I wish I had that excuse. I don't even drink.

I have a bag, and apparently I didn't put the glove in the bag before I left. Or, and this is my preferred theory: Glove Gremlins. They got me twice in one week, those sneaky little cretins.
 
May 24, 2013
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113
So Cal
My DD left her beloved Miken Freak Black at the field after a late-evening practice. This is the only time she has forgotten gear, and her own heartbreak was pretty heavy, so I didn't think additional consequences were necessary. If she had a habit of losing gear, I would have a very different view.
 

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