Should a parent tell a HC of potential team problems?

Sparky Guy said:

The younger ages is where this is usually an issue. As the girls get older they understand social dynamics better.

What I tell every team at the very start of the season is there are two things I absolutely demand from them and there is no grey area. The first is they WILL respect each other on and off the field, especially on social media. I make it clear to them I don't expect them to be BFF's with everyone on the team, and that's OK. It's part of working with a group of people. There will be differences.

The younger teams need an absolute set of rules sometimes so they understand the boundaries of what is acceptable. On the rare occasions, so do some parents. Being consistent with rules is what the HC needs to do. Kids like rules. So long as they are fair and handled the same for everyone.

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I wish my DDs HC did something like that. Oh well, she is young and inexperienced.

Do you want the HC to call the parents of the player on the team and tell the parents they have to invite everyone on the team or don't invite any of the players?

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Back in my coaching years, I had a standing rule that during the season (mid-May to mid-August) either you invited everyone from the team or no one from the team. The other rule were that, during the tournaments (Friday to Sunday), there were to sit with the team. No one was to sit alone. They were always supposed to be with their teammates.

The kids loved it.

sluggers said:

Back in my coaching years, I had a standing rule that during the season (mid-May to mid-August) either you invited everyone from the team or no one from the team. The other rule were that, during the tournaments (Friday to Sunday), there were to sit with the team. No one was to sit alone. They were always supposed to be with their teammates.

The kids loved it.

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Wise rules.

Disagree.

sluggers said:

Back in my coaching years, I had a standing rule that during the season (mid-May to mid-August) either you invited everyone from the team or no one from the team. The other rule were that, during the tournaments (Friday to Sunday), there were to sit with the team. No one was to sit alone. They were always supposed to be with their teammates.

The kids loved it.

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Or at least they pretended to love it. ;-)

I would definitely not bother the coach with this. This is minor. The only offense was that they have been a little more discreet.

You could mention it, but HC should probably not make it an issue bigger than it is. Our team is 12u and our girls seem to get along great even though there are obvious pairs or groups that seem to get together more often than others. We have one family that has a large house and hosts whole team parties a few times a year. My house is small and we will have 2 or 3 at a time over but try to make it through all of them, especially since I am a coach. I did host a sleep over during summer and let them camp out in the backyard, I have a huge tent. Our girls also do the social media chat group whatever as well. The parents kind of monitor it but usually leave them alone for the most part. They aren't all going to be "besties" all the time. I see them even have some drama between them and I always encourage parents to let the girls work it out themselves as girls will be girls.