Recently, DD 3 dropped what she thought was a bombshell on me, except I had known it for a long, long time.
DD 3 told me she most likely won't play college ball. At that point she was feeling so burned out she was considering quitting softball.
This didn't surprise me at all. DD 3 loves softball, but she isn't obsessed with softball. (Her brother is a college rower, and to call him obsessed would be an understatement. He eats, sleeps and breathes rowing). I could tell she didn't have anywhere near the level of commitment her brother has.
Her options at this point:
Play softball, but realize she won't ever play college ball. That may mean going back to a B level team, or else staying with her A organization in a non-showcase team. (Where she is now).
Play softball but quit pitching. She seems to be of two minds about it. Sometimes she really enjoys it, other times she hates it.
My take on it?
I asked all of my kids to at least try some sports in middle school and high school. See if they like it.
My goal was for the kids to have some fun, and get some exercise.
DD 3 over the years has tried ballet (fun, but not obsessed), swimming (meh), soccer (hated the game, loved the coaches and teammates), volleyball (fun, but not as much fun as softball), track (great at it, but same season as softball) and cross country (OK, but too much work for too little enjoyment). And softball, which she loves, and is good at.
Thinking of herself as a possible future college player was just way too much stress for her. Softball is a game. It should be fun. If she plays at a level that IS fun for her, and gets some exercise, then isn't she doing what I wanted her to do in the first place? She doesn't need to try to live out someone else's expectations. That's not fun at all.
Interestingly, since she told me that she wasn't going to play college ball, she seems to be enjoying softball a lot more. Maybe she will play the rest of her HS years, and have fun with it. She seemed truly happy the other day after practice.