The only reason I feel strongly about them practicing together is it is an excellent opportunity to get practice in with someone at their level. At this point DD1's skills are much better than mine, and DD2 and I are at the same level, but she will soon pass me.
Advice about twins?
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The only reason I feel strongly about them practicing together is it is an excellent opportunity to get practice in with someone at their level. At this point DD1's skills are much better than mine, and DD2 and I are at the same level, but she will soon pass me.
Lucky you. My DD 1 and DD 3 passed me in ability before they played their first games.
How old were they when they played their first game?
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Not playing, or not knowing a lot about, a sport that your kids play can be a blessing tbh as long as you find good coaching.
I have mixed feelings about that. I've seen some studies that claim that un-athletic parents can be a blessing, since we are less judgmental of our kids, and are pleasantly surprised when they do well.
OTOH, there are a lot of parents who can sit on a bucket and catch their DDs without fear of injury. I think that would've helped my DD 3 some if I could've done a better job catcher her.
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I don't mean to sound condescending, but if your lack of knowledge of game shows your DD's will pick that up right away. They will run over you like a freight train. Here's my suggestion to you. Go into the fielding, catching and pitching forums. There are tons of sticky's there for you to learn from. For the DD who pitches. It would be a good idea to go to her lessons and ask questions of pitching coach about what she's working on? How should it be done? What do you look for? If you know what she's supposed to be doing then you make sure she's doing it right and give her feedback.
As for the wife. If you need to cut practicing short or chew on one of their butt's it's not uncommon for them to double team mom about dad is being a jerk and a butt head. The young female mind is NEVER wrong in their world.
Kids will bring stuff from home to the field and bring stuff home from the field. Make sure you don't bring anything from a bad practice home. It stays at the field.
I should have been more specific, I've know the game for a long time. We live near a mid-major DI school whose softball team regularly goes to the NCAA regionals, and I have been taking my girls to games there since they were 7 y/o. I started teaching them the rules of the game at that age.
I just don't know a lot of the finer details of playing the game. Up until this summer I didn't know how to hit an inside pitch, or how a change up is thrown. I see myself as the father who wants to help them practice, and I do what I can. I have a disability which limits what I can do, and my girls seem to be fine with accepting my limits, most of the time.
My DD pitcher started pitching 6 weeks ago, and she had lessons twice a week since then. Unfortunately her pitching coach had to return to college, so I am trying out a new instructor next week. I asked plenty of questions during her lessons, and I understand the basics. I can talk to her about specifics, but I am just not good at seeing the fine details of pitching to be able to give her much advice. She is pretty good at recognizing what she did wrong with some of the basic mistakes she makes.
Being NEVER wrong is not limited to the young female mind in my house, but my wife is pretty good about not assuming I am being a jerk.
Thanks.
I started practicing with them when they were 7 years old, so I knew enough to be able to teach them something at that age. They played in an independent league, then LL until last summer, when they joined a town team. At the end of last summer, when DD1 just made it onto a serious TB team, I could hold my own with her, but by this spring, having a catch with her became hard work for me. DD2, who stayed on the town team this past season, is the one who is still at my level. She has now joined her sister on the serious TB team, and I trust she will soon surpass me.
I learned after the second day of catching my pitching DD that I needed shin guards. So now I catch with the guards, and the mask will be next. I can handle her pitches, for now, and she still wants me to catch for her. I wonder how long that will last.
I know I don't know enough to seriously coach them, so I don't try. Seems to makes things much more peaceful.
