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Oct 3, 2011
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It's a bittersweet day today. Today is the day we move DD into her college dorm room of her Freshman year. Of course, she's excited, DW's a nervous wreck and I'm...well I'm a bit melancholy myself. Classes start Monday and softball practice starts on Tuesday. Where did the time go? Yesterday DD was a 5 YO building sandcastles on the edge of the IF and today she's off to college. My advice to everyone that reads this is to not get too wrapped up in the game itself. Enjoy every minute of the journey and make as many favorable memories as you can with your DD and the rest of the family. Time flies and before you know it, you too will be sending your DD off to college.
 
Jun 8, 2016
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From time to time I tell my DD that Dad doesn't remember any specific games,ABs, etc. but does remember specifics from all the time I spent together with my father
at the ball field, either watching or practicing. She is 7 so I am not sure it registers with her just yet but it is a good reminder to myself to the enjoy the ride.
 
Mar 20, 2014
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I take DD to college in two weeks - I hope that I can hold myself together. We have spent so much time together because of this game - I am sure that we would not have been as close as we are if not for all of the windshield time and nights in hotels. I will miss her immensely but I am so excited for her at the same time...
 
Aug 26, 2011
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Same boat - left her at her school on Wednesday. Have gotten maybe 2 texts from her since - will take that as "she's happy, having fun & well-adjusted". Miss her like crazy already. Can't wait to find out fall "scrimmage" schedule.
 
May 15, 2016
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enjoy the ride.

Yes, enjoy the ride. When my DD was 9 years old and regularly ask me to take her to the park to practice, lots of parents would stop and tell me these are the special times. I told them I knew it, and thanks. She is now 13, and still drags me out to practice almost daily. It isn't quite as much fun with her adolescent brain is inclined to yell at me, or even just yell at herself when she is making mistakes.

My wife is away with both my DDs away for a vacation right now, I could not go. I am noticing I am missing practicing with both of my girls. This is only for a short vacation, and I am already missing practicing, and talking, softball with them. I can't imagine what you parents of college girls are going through, dropping them off and saying good-bye. I wish you luck.
 
Feb 28, 2015
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Great post YOCOACH, I now know what you are going through. DW took DD1 last year for Freshman year 1300 miles away. I took her this year for her Sophomore year. Never felt the need to cry, as DD1 is fairly independent and confident for this year ahead. Practice officially starts today for DD1 and I know she's ready for it. Good luck to all the softball girls this year!
 
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The 4 years pass before you know it. Hopefully, you'll be watching her play on Senior day and eventually the last game of her career. It's at that time you know it's over. There will be no more practices, games, trips, fights, celebrations, tears, cheers, smiles, frowns, dirty uniforms and time on the road. She will move on into adulthood with all the skills and knowledge you have given her. It's then when you hope she'll become the person you've envisioned... Better than yourself...
 
Oct 3, 2011
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UPDATE: I normally don't respond to many posts unless I've felt that I'm being called out. In this case, I'm making an exception to the rule.

To [MENTION=4739]maksoftball[/MENTION], we ran into Coach today specifically because he was looking for DD. Thankfully, he told us that their Fall scrimmage and game schedule will be out next week for the players to send home. Also, we found out that parent and family weekend is Oct 14th-16th which gave DW some comfort. It now gives us another excuse to show up on campus...not that we need any...lol. DD's college is only 1 1/2 hours away and we told DD that when she needed a parent fix, we'd come up any weekend evening to take her to dinner.

To [MENTION=10597]sbmom19[/MENTION], just a heads up; you won't. DW wept the entire morning and openly cried the entire way home. That said, she knows DD's in good hands with Coach, her roomies and her new teammates. But we are already missing her. The worst and best part both was that DD left us a surprise video message on DW's iPad which not only reassured us, but needless to say, left us both in tears.

[MENTION=5663]JAD[/MENTION], I feel your pain. Unfortunately, it's possible to miss them even before they actually leave the house for college. Just remember, we did it at one time or another to our parents and they felt the same way we do now. It's both a blessing and a curse.

To both [MENTION=14754]pattar[/MENTION] and [MENTION=1711]Sparky Guy[/MENTION], What I said about time flying, I truly meant. I'm not looking forward to the next 4 years but I also am. I looking forward to seeing how my daughter blossoms into the independent young woman we raised her to be. By the same token, I refuse to wish time away for the end result. I can't wait to watch her play at the next level but it's now time to step aside and watch her play and develop further. The journey continues and I'm looking forward to every moment I can find to be there and experience it.

To [MENTION=12444]Bubrox[/MENTION], thank you for the good wishes to all of our DD's in our DFP family and also the empathy.

Last but not least, [MENTION=1410]WARRIORMIKE[/MENTION]. The only thing I have to ask WARRIORANGELA is, "Habla espanol?":cool:

In all seriousness now, DD loves her roommates and it looks like she will be not only challenged academically, but athletically as well which makes it all worth it for us. Coach promised to keep a hard eye on her which also makes us feel better. Also, being only an hour and a half away allows DD to come home when she's able and/or wants to or we can go up and take her out to dinner and visit if she's not too busy. The campus is beautiful and it's a wonderful school full of dormitories....sorry...the PC term now is Residence Halls that have all been built within the last 5 years as well as most of the educational buildings so the residence hall suites have large bedrooms that include a full size bed and a wall to wall closet. The new educational facilities are also top notch. DD's extremely happy so far at least as far as a single day on campus goes;). I guess like the rest of life, we'll just have to see how it goes.
 
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