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Jul 14, 2017
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The good news is that we survived tryout weekend and walked away with several offers.

The bad news is now I have to give my answers. Any tips on saying no, without sounding ungrateful or condescending? All great opportunities.

Thank you!


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Nov 29, 2009
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HI Coach,

This is (NAME). My DD received several offers during tryouts this week. She has decided to play with another team. Thank you for the opportunity to tryout and we wish your team the best during the upcoming season.


Doesn't need to be hard or drawn out. Coaches get those calls all the time.
 

Cannonball

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Feb 25, 2009
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I had a grandparent today come up to me and talk about her granddaughter making the middle school team. She said that she, grandmother, had lost so much sleep over tryouts. She said that her granddaughter had lost a student council vote, had not gotten other things she wanted but none compared to her love of softball. I know the girl and she does play hard but isn't the most talented. So, the young lady made the team. Grandma said that she was seriously worried about the girl's self esteem and not making the softball team would have been the last straw. Something to keep in mind for all of us when some of these young ladies are trying out for various teams.

BTW, I am reminded of a young man I coached in baseball when I was the V HC. He had a 90+ FB and was a stud. He also didn't act right. I remember walking out to him in tryouts and making sure he understood that he needed the team a lot more than I needed him. For this young man, he needed to know this and was just the opposite of the young lady above. This guy was arrogant and didn't think anyone could cut him.
 
May 16, 2016
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I would just recommend letting the other coaches know your plan ASAP.

My daughter was at a tryout tonight and as soon as the tryout was over the coach offered my daughter a spot on the team. There was only 6 girls at the tryout tonight and they offered all 6 girls a spot on the roster. During the tryout I received a phone call from the team my daughter try'd out for the previous day, we accepted the offer from that team. The team we accepted the offer from was the team we were hoping to join.

When we got home I immediately sent the coach an email saying that we accepted a offer from a different team, and I just wanted to let him know so he could move on with his tryouts. I did not want to decline his offer in front of other families since I thought that would be rude.

All my email said was:

(My daughter"s name here) accepted an offer from (team name here). Just wanted to let you know as soon as possible that we are going in a different direction so you can make your personnel decisions.

Thank you,
(My name here)
 
Jul 3, 2013
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Unless you received the offer in an email, don't respond with an email. Use the phone, a voicemail is fine if they don't answer. "Hi, coach Jones. This is Suzie Ballplayer's father. I want to thank you for the interest in Suzie and for the offer, but we've decided to join the DFP Gold Elite Select organization."
 
May 6, 2015
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on a related note, any suggestions for telling DDs current coach she is not coming back for fall? current/old team had tryouts about one week ago, DD could not make it because of other commitments, and we communicated this to coaches, and they indicated no problem, "we know what (DD) can do". we were already looking around, and DD had one tryout two weeks ago, one last week, the first one offered, and after a couple of discussions with the coach we accepted.

tried to call last night, got voicemail, just left message asking coach to call us, any suggestions on what to say when conversation happens? OK to notify via text or voicemail if I cannot get them after so many tries (and how many)?

Thanks
 
Jul 14, 2017
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on a related note, any suggestions for telling DDs current coach she is not coming back for fall? current/old team had tryouts about one week ago, DD could not make it because of other commitments, and we communicated this to coaches, and they indicated no problem, "we know what (DD) can do". we were already looking around, and DD had one tryout two weeks ago, one last week, the first one offered, and after a couple of discussions with the coach we accepted.

tried to call last night, got voicemail, just left message asking coach to call us, any suggestions on what to say when conversation happens? OK to notify via text or voicemail if I cannot get them after so many tries (and how many)?

Thanks

I hate talking on the phone and find email so much easier! I guess it depends on your relationship with the coach. If you are close or have known each other a long time, a phone call is probably warranted. Even if you do send an email, be prepared for a possible follow-up call. Try to frame your reasons in a positive manner, thank them for their time and wish them well. It sounds like the sooner, the better in your case since they are assuming that she is returning. Good luck!


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Jul 14, 2017
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Unless you received the offer in an email, don't respond with an email. Use the phone, a voicemail is fine if they don't answer. "Hi, coach Jones. This is Suzie Ballplayer's father. I want to thank you for the interest in Suzie and for the offer, but we've decided to join the DFP Gold Elite Select organization."

Each verbal offer was followed by an email offer. I took the easy way out and emailed my responses


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Jul 14, 2017
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I would just recommend letting the other coaches know your plan ASAP.

My daughter was at a tryout tonight and as soon as the tryout was over the coach offered my daughter a spot on the team. There was only 6 girls at the tryout tonight and they offered all 6 girls a spot on the roster. During the tryout I received a phone call from the team my daughter try'd out for the previous day, we accepted the offer from that team. The team we accepted the offer from was the team we were hoping to join.

When we got home I immediately sent the coach an email saying that we accepted a offer from a different team, and I just wanted to let him know so he could move on with his tryouts. I did not want to decline his offer in front of other families since I thought that would be rude.

All my email said was:

(My daughter"s name here) accepted an offer from (team name here). Just wanted to let you know as soon as possible that we are going in a different direction so you can make your personnel decisions.

Thank you,
(My name here)

Time is of the essence on both sides- players want to know if they made it and coaches want their rosters confirmed. I responded within 24-48 hours----dd had a hard decision to make.


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