Greenmonsters
Wannabe Duck Boat Owner
I'm guessing you overlooked the info about the coach that the OP provided in a follow up post
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And we wonder why it's so hard to find good HS coaches today?
Bullying issue
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I'm guessing you overlooked the info about the coach that the OP provided in a follow up post
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And we wonder why it's so hard to find good HS coaches today?
This is a perfect opportunity for the teacher/coach to see if she is really coaching material. This is not an uncommon situation and she needs to deal with it with the best interests of the team firmly in her mind. Otherwise, she needs to realize she's not fit for coaching. Unfortunately, firing a teacher from a union supported coaching position is very difficult. For all we know, she may already be aware of this and isn't looking to change anything, preferring to keep her stipend and be a pretend coach. Your DASA coordinator may be a resource.
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I think my advice is to tell your DD to try and ignore the behavior and maybe it will go away.
My DD had somewhat of a similar situation last year with a basketball teammate. DD had a birthday party and this girl wasn't invited. She lied to everyone saying my DD invited the entire basketball team to her party except her. She only invited 2 of 17 basketball teammates. She went to the coach with it and the coach sorted it out. When the girl didn't like that, her dad approached me about it. He tried to claim that my daughter physically intimidated the entire basketball team to lie for her. When that didn't work, DD started getting nasty texts from an anonymous number. We blocked the number and a couple days later started getting the same texts from a different number. Blocked that one and didn't get any more. Based on the way these texts were written, there's no way a 13 year old girl wrote the texts. So, there was definitely some adult involvement as well.
We managed to ignore it all and eventually the BS stopped.
I feel for you. In these situations you feel helpless for your kid. You don't know what to do. It is even worse when the bully's mom is also being a bully. You know where they get it from.
My DD had somewhat of a similar situation last year with a basketball teammate. DD had a birthday party and this girl wasn't invited. She lied to everyone saying my DD invited the entire basketball team to her party except her. She only invited 2 of 17 basketball teammates. She went to the coach with it and the coach sorted it out. When the girl didn't like that, her dad approached me about it. He tried to claim that my daughter physically intimidated the entire basketball team to lie for her. When that didn't work, DD started getting nasty texts from an anonymous number. We blocked the number and a couple days later started getting the same texts from a different number. Blocked that one and didn't get any more. Based on the way these texts were written, there's no way a 13 year old girl wrote the texts. So, there was definitely some adult involvement as well.
We managed to ignore it all and eventually the BS stopped.
I feel for you. In these situations you feel helpless for your kid. You don't know what to do. It is even worse when the bully's mom is also being a bully. You know where they get it from.
No, I did not overlook that.
That's why I said the need to have a serious heart to heart, and regardless of the coach's age or experience, she needs to step up and take hold of the situation.
Greenmonsters
Wannabe Duck Boat Owner
I recommend running from a HS coaching position where you don't have the support of the AD and administration. And I'd recommend running 10 times faster from that coaching position if you also were a teacher in that school district.
I'd agree 100%
So had the meeting with the AD today. Seemed fair enough. He did say he was in a "tough position" which I do get that he may have been...if someone says a kid is doing drugs (whether true or not) it has to be investigated. He did say the thought that what the other mother did was in poor taste and agrees it was not done in the best interest or in concern for my kid but more for the benefit of her kid.
He's planning on having a meeting with the superintendent, coach before the season and a separate meeting with the girl's parents. Also wants to have a meeting with the girl and my DD to ensure this doesn't happen this season. I did tell him my daughter would prob quit the team if there seems to be an issue, however, part of my doesn't want to...people like this shouldn't win!
I really do appreciate the advice. Good to know I'm not the only one!
He's planning on having a meeting with the superintendent, coach before the season and a separate meeting with the girl's parents. Also wants to have a meeting with the girl and my DD to ensure this doesn't happen this season. I did tell him my daughter would prob quit the team if there seems to be an issue, however, part of my doesn't want to...people like this shouldn't win!
I really do appreciate the advice. Good to know I'm not the only one!
Sounds like things went well! Hopefully things change for the better this season
