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Oct 3, 2011
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"Thanks coach! Glad I found this out about you sooner rather than later"-said some 12 year old fire baller somewhere in the US when she found out her coach said this on a public forum.

Even if a girl pitches faster than your daughter, you are still supposed to represent her as best you can as her coach.
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JJ.. I compketely understand the point you are trying to make. That being said, this comment was made tongue in cheek so to speak since some pitching parents claim so much for their pitching DDs. My DD has given that aspect of tne game up (Thank God!) quite awhile ago. I could care less that at that time and point this pitcher could throw faster than any otner pitcher on the team. As many on here and the other forums I frequent know, I am not the most tactful person. I tell it as I see it, usually quite bluntly and brutally honest. As many people say, opinions are like A-holes, everyone has one and it usually stinks:cool: Mine is no different.
 
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Oct 3, 2011
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Thank you ... thank you ... thank you.

Softball is a hitters game these days. The best hitters live in a 60 mph batting cage, and is the easiest pitch for them to hit ... and hit REALLY hard !!!

As far as the topic at hand. Don't "rip" anyone ... period. Coach, player or other, Softball is an extremely competitive game. There are no free rides, in the end game. Much more enjoyable to watch and listen to folks who have no clue, and watch them eat crow on there own terms.

The best revenge is to walk off the field a Champion ... with a smile on your face thanking everyone within earshot. Been there, done that.

Thank you SCDad. I appreciate the advice as well as the sentiment. It is well and heartfully received. I will try to be a little more discerning in my posts from here on :)
 
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Apr 25, 2010
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Let me tell you, in my part of Ohio, if you even whisper the name Hillhouse, you get one of two reactions: he is the greatest thing since sliced bread, or he is the biggest hack to walk the face of the earth...lol. This area has a buttload of old school types who know everything about everything. Bill refers to these as The Pitching Coach Mafia. I am certain most areas have them. One TB coach out here actually said they would never take a Hillhouse pitcher because they want their pitchers to pitch like women. Unreal...
 
Jun 18, 2012
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Let me tell you, in my part of Ohio, if you even whisper the name Hillhouse, you get one of two reactions: he is the greatest thing since sliced bread, or he is the biggest hack to walk the face of the earth...lol. This area has a buttload of old school types who know everything about everything. Bill refers to these as The Pitching Coach Mafia. I am certain most areas have them. One TB coach out here actually said they would never take a Hillhouse pitcher because they want their pitchers to pitch like women. Unreal...

REALLY? ...would never take a Hillhouse pitcher... What kind of nonsense is THAT?!
 
Oct 22, 2009
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This is one conversation I try to avoid. Every parent thinks their DD's PC is the best (otherwise they would not be going there week after week paying $40, $50, $80 per hour). If a parent comes to me for a recommendation, I usually send them to my DD's former PC. But if they are seeing one already, I do not even mention them changing unless they bring it up. It also helps to try and build a relationship with your players' PCs, and let them know what you are seeing and let the PC and player work it out. If the player is with the "wrong" PC, it always plays out in the end because they do not progress compared to the other pitchers, and that is reflected in playing time.
 
Jun 24, 2013
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I have always been mystified by parents who stick to their guns, when their DD is not progressing with their current coach. I had one girl on my team who used to go to the PC my girls went to. They switched to this new guy because they had "hit a wall" with their DD's speed with her old coach. Her new coach preached speed over everything. Did nothing to work on her mental skills, did nothing to work on placement or spots, just throw baby throw. The faster the better. Problem was this, speed is all she had. She could kill it one inning and throw 9 strikes to get 3 outs, but the next inning she would walk 6. She did OK in rec ball. When she moved to TB and started facing girls that could hit speed, she got rocked. Parents ended up blaming me for destroying their DD's confidence. I wanted so badly to say "Perhaps you should look to blame her PC because she has been this way the entire time I have known her and known about her. Her PC is to blame because he just wants her to throw it faster and harder. Perhaps if she had some control I could use her more and count on her instead of taking a gamble with her every time she takes the mound!" But I knew it was futile, they were paying him money and were not paying me anything so he must be right. If I have a problem with a girl now, I ask the parents to get their PC to work on it. If they tell me "We have been trying for the past XX months with her PC.." I say perhaps someone else might be able to "explain" it better to her. But that usually goes over like a fart in church....
 
Nov 18, 2013
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So, anyone else get bored about having their coaches ripped on for no reason other than someone's need to feel superior?

Yup, I get very bored with parents who rip on anything others are doing or brag up inflated stats every single time you talk to them.
 
Jun 18, 2012
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I greatly appreciate the cheering parents who have little to say about how this should have been done or how that should have been done. That is, I greatly value parents to aren't vocal about there self-determined expertise regarding every aspect of the game. When my DD plays on a different team, I tend to separate myself from the sideline vocal experts. Reason... Because anyone can be an armchair coach. It's much more difficult to be supportive of the coach by avoiding the sideline armchair coaching. That's probably why we see so much of the sideline armchair coaching.
 

JAD

Feb 20, 2012
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While it is never easy to listen to another player, parent or coach "bad mouth" one of your DD's coaches, I usually just let my DD's performance speak for itself......
 

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