How much do you help with homework?

Last week helped with scientific notation with the metric system for DD's homework from Chemistry class. Hell, I haven't done that since the dinosaurs roamed the earth. Last night helped with learning how to read the periodic table, how to know what protons, neutrons, electrons, molecules, moles, etc. are. Goodness! I thought I was done learning this stuff LONG AGO.

Doug Romrell said:

Last week helped with scientific notation with the metric system for DD's homework from Chemistry class. Hell, I haven't done that since the dinosaurs roamed the earth. Last night helped with learning how to read the periodic table, how to know what protons, neutrons, electrons, molecules, moles, etc. are. Goodness! I thought I was done learning this stuff LONG AGO.

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I feel your pain. My 15yo DD's math went over my head about halfway through her Freshman year (Geometry). Thankfully, math is one of her stronger subjects.

I helped my DD on and off in HS. Mainly because I love a challenge and enjoy furthering my primitive education.

She's going for her RN in college now and if she chooses after that.................. The other night she asked me to help her study for the semester exam.........anatomy. As I flipped thru the pages I felt like the book wasn't even in English. ( math is my strong suit ) We laughed back and forth as some "terms" I pronounced incorrect. For a few moments............I felt like I was reading some of the posts in the hitting forum.

Eric F said:

I feel your pain. My 15yo DD's math went over my head about halfway through her Freshman year (Geometry). Thankfully, math is one of her stronger subjects.

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Funny thing... I showed DD a different way from what the substitute teacher did for the scientific notation stuff in preparation for the test. DD ended up getting 88. The high was 90. She was SO PROUD of kicking butt. LOL

my dd is 100% responsible for her homework. Every night my wife or I ask. Any homework tonight? And she either says, yep nope, or its already done. Thats the extent of our involvement, unless the dd asks us a specific question or asks up to look over something she has written. If she can handle her homework load, any kid in our HS can. She plays 3 varsity sports, plays in the band, NHS and student government.

Holy cow, China and I agree on something...

I stopped making sure that my kids got "As" in the 7th grade. If they wanted help, they could come to us. Other than that, we would make sure their homework was done.

They learned how to budget their time and how long they needed to do assignments. As far as I can tell, your DD isn't learning anything about her own limitations.

On a couple of occasions I have been doing pretty severe rewrites the night before for her. She is a great student and this is not the norm, just when she gets in a pickle and I have to choose between showing up to games and/or practice or homework, I opt for the softball and assist with the homework. This was prompted because she has a project due Friday and the only way she makes it on her own is to skip pitching practice tonight and team practice on Thursday.

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You're crazy.

Parenting 101: The child should experience the natural consequences of her actions.

You are making choices about what she does for her. So, she never gets to make a choice. She never gets to experience what happens when *SHE* makes a bad decision. There are never any consequences for her. She will never learn how to make good decisions unless you allow her to make bad decisions.

Additionally, you are making her dependent upon you. (One might ask, "Is that for her or for you?") You are trying to raise a person who doesn't need you.

Additionally, you are teaching her that softball is more important than her school work. ***IT ISN'T***


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A local hs near our location has a math teacher taking a very interesting approach.

He puts his lecture on youtube. The "homework" is to watch the youtube vid and take notes. The next day, they do the assigned problems in class where the teacher is present to answer questions.

One dad interviewed said it has ended some really difficult and stressful nights of fighting through the class work and the grades have shot up.

I think it's brilliant. I cannot help with math homework. DW has a math degree but it frustrates dd's when she doesn't solve probs the same way the teacher taught them. There is real stress in that at 10p on a school night.

Just wait until the schools have to adopt the Core Curriculum. If you think that HS is nuts, now, just wait. I hope that DD lets me homeschool GDD.

Sluggers/China.....please talk to my wife? Please? DD is in 6th grade, and she presents projects that would be a stretch for high school seniors. It's an epidemic though. I ALWAYS take notice of the project's displayed during Parent Teacher conferences, and I would bet that 90+ percent of them are mommy or daddy projects.

Amy in AZ. said:

I would help. Some schools assign an asinine amount of homework.

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LOL! ... It's hard to criticize the advancement of a person's education, but geez, I agree that the amount of homework sometimes gets to be ridiculous. You'd think 8 hours in a school building and maybe 1 hour at home of learning would suffice.

As to the OP, I don't help my DD unless she asks, but she asks 2-3 times a week for me or my wife to ask her questions to help study for a quiz, or read over an essay and give her feedback.

She's much more disciplined and organized than I am, so if she's behind in schoolwork or a project, it's usually because she's been given an asinine amount, and I'm OK with her missing a softball practice to catch up. Doesn't happen often, but it's happened a couple of times. Sometimes she's got an asinine amount of softball practice, so it goes both ways.