Why do parents put up with bad coaching?

I concur, totally, with the previous posts. Coaching girls is way different than coaching boys. I have
coached girls fastpitch softball teams for many years and had to learn to adapt my style to my players.

Out in Left Field said:

If you take coaching courses, you will understand there is no difference in teaching an 8 year old of either gender. What if you were a parent of a teacher who had different standards for boys and girls in class? It is one thing to have an individual approach but a gender approach is wrong.

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I disagree with this part of your argument. I will submit that many things we "learn" in teaching environments is very wrong itself. As much as many want to feel so politically correct by forcing equality at every turn when you clear your head and think for yourself if you witness groups of girls in comparison to groups of boys there ARE differences (in general).

Went to HS with Mary O, who played for Pat, her first recruit at Tenn. Yes Pat was hard but the girls loved her and respected her for her knowledge. The problem is a lot of the coaches watch youtube and think they can coach. Pat knew how from experience.

MarkAdams said:

Went to HS with Mary O, who played for Pat, her first recruit at Tenn. Yes Pat was hard but the girls loved her and respected her for her knowledge. The problem is a lot of the coaches watch youtube and think they can coach. Pat knew how from experience.

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Got the opportunity to watch one of her practices. It was an experience that I will never forget.

One of the things I've learned to love most about coaching is figuring out how to deal with the questions in this thread...how do you create relationships with players that get them to be their best? how do you deal with different players, yet have a consistent approach to the team? how do you deal with your own frustrations or expectations and then translate them into something that helps your players, and not your ego....

Also interesting, how do you do this as a head coach, and how do you do it as an assistant coach (I've been both). There are different challenges based on your role within a team.

The coach in the original post was giving a performance for his parents and for himself. He should have stepped up on a soapbox rather then sat on a bucket. He let his frustrations get to him, and his concerns about what the parents thought of him. That was his issue, IMO. We've all been there. The challenge is to laser focus on helping your girls improve -- as softball players and as people. It can be hard at times, no doubt.

(1) Blinders (parenting responsibility transfer)
(2) Chasing the scholarship $$
(3) That's the way I was coached and I'm not that screwed up