- Oct 7, 2009
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My daughter is 11 yo (12 in January), and she really enjoys softball. However, she is a very timid child. It has gotten to the point where she is afraid to make mistakes so much that she plays very hesitantly and not aggressively. Last night, I asked her why she didn't swing at a pitch right down the middle, and she said that she was afraid if she missed, she would get in trouble. I took her to her coach and told him that she was afraid of getting in trouble, and he told her in a very comforting manner that he would never yell at her for trying. She just broke down crying.
She had a coach a couple of years ago who yelled at her for running home when he told her "no" and she thought he said "go". I guess this is where the fear comes from, but that's not the whole explanation. She is timid in all settings. She was afraid to ask her bus driver to drop her off at school for example.
She is fast as can be, and I think she could be an excellent player if she could just get that confidence, but I have no idea how to help her get there. I have thought about having her play slow pitch for a season to help get some confidence. I have thought about telling her that she can't play for a season to give her a break. At this point, I don't know which way to go.
Have any of you had similar problems with your kids and how did they overcome them?
She had a coach a couple of years ago who yelled at her for running home when he told her "no" and she thought he said "go". I guess this is where the fear comes from, but that's not the whole explanation. She is timid in all settings. She was afraid to ask her bus driver to drop her off at school for example.
She is fast as can be, and I think she could be an excellent player if she could just get that confidence, but I have no idea how to help her get there. I have thought about having her play slow pitch for a season to help get some confidence. I have thought about telling her that she can't play for a season to give her a break. At this point, I don't know which way to go.
Have any of you had similar problems with your kids and how did they overcome them?