Coach upset with DD for going to Homecoming

iMlearning · Oct 25, 2013

Our Coach is upset that DD is going to Homecoming and missing our next tournament. Won't let it go...we told him 2 months ago when he decided to do a tournament out of state. She's never missed one...only part of one when she sprained her ankle in the second game. Fortunately they were on a break when she was in the hospital. Anyone else have this problem? Other girls have missed to go on vacations etc... but he keeps telling her she made a commitment to the team and is letting her teammates down. We have a lot of injuries on the team at the moment but she's been very committed and even played in the last tournament with a recovering ankle after the doctor said he'd prefer she didn't. They only had 8, so she said she'd be fine. Anyway, just wanted to rant.

KCPRK · Oct 25, 2013

If you told him and he scheduled it then he accepted playing without her.

Unless its an annual trip or one of the big/must go trips then he could have taken the weekend off.

CoachKevin · Oct 25, 2013

Typically a Tournament this time of year is a Showcase, is that what it is?

Eric F · Oct 25, 2013

I would allow my DD to make the decision on which one is more important to her, and support her decision. There is more to life than softball.

kenb63 · Oct 25, 2013

To be the devil's advocate, if the team had a lot of players go down injured after scheduling the trip and if this is a big out-of-state showcase, I can see how a player attending a social event instead of helping her teammates out might irk a coach.

iMlearning · Oct 25, 2013

showcase

Yes it is a showcase.

softballmom77 · Oct 25, 2013

My DD decided to stay home this weekend instead of going to Rising Stars in Florida.
I tried to tell her she had to miss the dance and go to softball but that didn't fly!
She stated all her reasons for wanting to go to the dance and I let her make the final choice.

In all fairness, the kid gives up all of her Summer so who am I to make her give up something so important as this.

I saved myself about $1000 in flights and hotel so I guess it's a win for my pocket book this weekend.

Coach was fine with the decision, it's not his first rodeo!!

guero_gordo · Oct 25, 2013

TB kids miss a lot of events, once in a while particularly in Fall, it's good to flip the priorities.
Add in plenty of advance notice and there is no issue here. He'll just have to grow up a little.

CoogansBluff · Oct 25, 2013

What does homecoming entail? What will she be doing? How do her teammates feel about it?

I'd trust my daughter to make the right decision. If she wants to go to homecoming and she's let that be known for two months and she's not giving in to the coach's pressure, then I'd feel pretty comfortable w/ her judgment. She's old enough to make the call. In fact, the experience of making this decision and having to say no to somebody is probably as valuable as the tournament itself, or homecoming. It's how you learn to grow up.

Amy in AZ. · Oct 25, 2013

Homecoming for softball? I guess the coach will have to decide when his DD is that age. But, your DD chosen what she wanted to do and it isn't softball. She has stated her priority. Am I to assume that she doesn't want to play college ball? If not, that she chosen correctly.

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