- Jun 24, 2013
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The only reason my DD's will play rec again is if they need mound time and really I would only do it to develop my youngest DD. Having coached rec for 3 seasons and TB for 2, I can tell you from experience there are a lot of problems with the scenario you described.
1) Expectations - Rec ball parents like to think that their DD's are all-stars (heck I did when mine were in) however, few take the time to work with them and expect the coach to work miracles. Few rec ball coaches (in my experience) have very much softball coaching experience, nor do they desire to obtain it. They are usually dads and moms that step up because no one else wants to. So you have inexperienced coaches trying to teach girls, who may or may not want to be there, the game of softball. All while trying to be competitive and win (because thats what the parents want regardless of what they say, is for their DD's to be on a winning team). I know, I coached 3 seasons of rec ball and dealt with more drama than I care to ever experience again. I personally loved coaching these girls, the ones that wanted to be there and I turned my teams in to competitive teams without screaming and yelling at them. However I always got "stuck" with 1-3 girls whose parents used SB as a babysitting service or an "exercise program". Drop the kids off and go run errands and don't return until 30 min after the practice or games are over. Those girls didn't want to be there, it showed and it affected the other team members. In TB, the girls all want to be there. That is your first hurdle.
2) The finer things in life - Once you reach the All-Star level in rec ball you need to move on. Once you have tasted steak why settle for ground beef? Keeping your DD's on rec ball teams when they are the better players can actually hurt their development. My DD's could throw really hard (not just pitching, but overhand throwing as well). Due to the rec "fairness" rules, everyone had to be rotated in the infield and had to play at every positon (except P and C) for a minimum of 2 innings. Sometimes my better girls would field the ball come up firing only to have to reduce the velocity of the throws because someone was at 1st who couldn't catch well. Playing down weakens their skill level and impacts their growth. If they didn't reduce the velocity, then the inexperienced girls got hurt.
3) I currently coach 2 travel teams and some of my parents of the younger squad have them doing both. This is their 1st year in TB. They said they are done with rec after this season. They get more experience in our practices and in one weekend of a tournament than they get in a whole season of rec ball. Plus you are with more girls who want to be there and can actually handle your throws. The girls on this team have improved rapidly since we started.
4) I get the community angle, but with most rec leagues I have worked with, they are not as serious about developing softball as they are about baseball. In baseball they separate out the "better" boys and have a league for them, but not for softball. Lump all the girls of the same age together. Draft who shows up for tryouts and hat pick the ones that weren't able to be there on skills day. Does your rec league bring in pitching coaches? Do they mandate that coaches learn the proper way to teach throwing, hitting, baserunning, etc.? Or do they just let Joe/Jane Volunteer teach them any old way that they want? And that usually involves an overweight coach hitting balls to them in a field. I have coached rec leagues in different states. I only had 1, and it was a small community rec league, that actually brought in a pitching coach to teach all of the coaches some things to get the girls started on. They also held a skills camp and taught the girls how to do different skills.
5) Knowledge of the rules and game. I can remember the first time in rec I had my girls run to second on a walk. The parents didn't understand why I always had my girls running on walks anyways. The parents of the other team (and the coaches too) were saying that you only get one base on a walk (the 4th ball was a passed ball and the C was lazily getting up and getting to the ball). So my DD was already at 2nd by the time the C returned the ball to the P. They were upset when the blue let it stand. Or the time my DD took advantage of the uncaught third strike (or dropped 3rd strike) rule. My DD had 2 strikes on her and 1 ball. A really high pitch came in (she was sure was going to be way over the C's head) and my DD swung, purposely missed and took off running for 1st. The rec parents kept yelling "She's out! She's out! She struck out!!". I looked at the blue and said "Dropped 3rd strike blue." He nodded and smiled a great big smile and left her on 1st. Most TB parents know the rules (or learn them quickly) while most rec parents AND coaches never take the time to learn the rule book. Also when you use the "Rec House rules" to your advantage, teams and parents get mad because they don't know them well enough. As coaches, my wife and I made sure we knew how to teach these girls. We bought videos and learned how to teach them the correct ways. I read the rule books weekly to understand them. I read the case scenarios. I read the Babe Ruth, NFHS, NSA, USSSA, ASA rule books to make sure I was doing the right things as a coach. Not many coaches in the rec leagues will do that, and they fail their community in trying to coach something they know little about. Or heaven forbid, trying to teach softball players baseball methods.
So if she is already the cream of the crop, then it is time to move on. Finish out the rec season if you have already started it. The most perfect example I use came to me one year in T-Ball. Our rec T-ball league went from 4-8 years old, so you could have a 4yo on the same team with an 8 yo. This one boy on the opposing team was 8, probably getting ready to turn 9, if he hadn't already. He had played T-ball for 4 years in the league. He was always his teams last batter as the last batter got to run around the bases until a base in front of them was tagged (yes this league counted runs, wins and losses in T-Ball!). He could hit the ball to the fence and sometimes over it (they had that portable fence moved in so the little ones wouldn't have to run so far). He was getting absolutely nothing developmentally out of being there as he wasn't being challenged in the least, BUT HE WAS THE KING OF T-BALL!!!!!!!!
I never understood why, as a parent, you would want your son or DD to be the king of t-ball when it was obvious they were not growing their skills anymore. That is what is happening. Your DD is at the top of the pool of players. Ask your DXH why does he think the girls want to move on? He will probably find that the girls were tired of being the king of t-ball. they wanted to be challenged more and play with other girls that have the same desire and willingness to work harder and keep getting better. They are tired of the walk-a-thons so common in rec ball. They are tired of being lumped in with girls that don't want to be there.
They are ready to take their game TO THE NEXT LEVEL. i think the example of a 7th grader repeating the 5th grade is a good example. Yes you could redo the 5th grade, you would exceed at it, perhaps even be the Valedictorian, but you would still have a 7th grade education. You would be no more better prepared for 8th grade than you were a year before, except you might have an overestimated sense of your abilities to compete with 8th graders.
1) Expectations - Rec ball parents like to think that their DD's are all-stars (heck I did when mine were in) however, few take the time to work with them and expect the coach to work miracles. Few rec ball coaches (in my experience) have very much softball coaching experience, nor do they desire to obtain it. They are usually dads and moms that step up because no one else wants to. So you have inexperienced coaches trying to teach girls, who may or may not want to be there, the game of softball. All while trying to be competitive and win (because thats what the parents want regardless of what they say, is for their DD's to be on a winning team). I know, I coached 3 seasons of rec ball and dealt with more drama than I care to ever experience again. I personally loved coaching these girls, the ones that wanted to be there and I turned my teams in to competitive teams without screaming and yelling at them. However I always got "stuck" with 1-3 girls whose parents used SB as a babysitting service or an "exercise program". Drop the kids off and go run errands and don't return until 30 min after the practice or games are over. Those girls didn't want to be there, it showed and it affected the other team members. In TB, the girls all want to be there. That is your first hurdle.
2) The finer things in life - Once you reach the All-Star level in rec ball you need to move on. Once you have tasted steak why settle for ground beef? Keeping your DD's on rec ball teams when they are the better players can actually hurt their development. My DD's could throw really hard (not just pitching, but overhand throwing as well). Due to the rec "fairness" rules, everyone had to be rotated in the infield and had to play at every positon (except P and C) for a minimum of 2 innings. Sometimes my better girls would field the ball come up firing only to have to reduce the velocity of the throws because someone was at 1st who couldn't catch well. Playing down weakens their skill level and impacts their growth. If they didn't reduce the velocity, then the inexperienced girls got hurt.
3) I currently coach 2 travel teams and some of my parents of the younger squad have them doing both. This is their 1st year in TB. They said they are done with rec after this season. They get more experience in our practices and in one weekend of a tournament than they get in a whole season of rec ball. Plus you are with more girls who want to be there and can actually handle your throws. The girls on this team have improved rapidly since we started.
4) I get the community angle, but with most rec leagues I have worked with, they are not as serious about developing softball as they are about baseball. In baseball they separate out the "better" boys and have a league for them, but not for softball. Lump all the girls of the same age together. Draft who shows up for tryouts and hat pick the ones that weren't able to be there on skills day. Does your rec league bring in pitching coaches? Do they mandate that coaches learn the proper way to teach throwing, hitting, baserunning, etc.? Or do they just let Joe/Jane Volunteer teach them any old way that they want? And that usually involves an overweight coach hitting balls to them in a field. I have coached rec leagues in different states. I only had 1, and it was a small community rec league, that actually brought in a pitching coach to teach all of the coaches some things to get the girls started on. They also held a skills camp and taught the girls how to do different skills.
5) Knowledge of the rules and game. I can remember the first time in rec I had my girls run to second on a walk. The parents didn't understand why I always had my girls running on walks anyways. The parents of the other team (and the coaches too) were saying that you only get one base on a walk (the 4th ball was a passed ball and the C was lazily getting up and getting to the ball). So my DD was already at 2nd by the time the C returned the ball to the P. They were upset when the blue let it stand. Or the time my DD took advantage of the uncaught third strike (or dropped 3rd strike) rule. My DD had 2 strikes on her and 1 ball. A really high pitch came in (she was sure was going to be way over the C's head) and my DD swung, purposely missed and took off running for 1st. The rec parents kept yelling "She's out! She's out! She struck out!!". I looked at the blue and said "Dropped 3rd strike blue." He nodded and smiled a great big smile and left her on 1st. Most TB parents know the rules (or learn them quickly) while most rec parents AND coaches never take the time to learn the rule book. Also when you use the "Rec House rules" to your advantage, teams and parents get mad because they don't know them well enough. As coaches, my wife and I made sure we knew how to teach these girls. We bought videos and learned how to teach them the correct ways. I read the rule books weekly to understand them. I read the case scenarios. I read the Babe Ruth, NFHS, NSA, USSSA, ASA rule books to make sure I was doing the right things as a coach. Not many coaches in the rec leagues will do that, and they fail their community in trying to coach something they know little about. Or heaven forbid, trying to teach softball players baseball methods.
So if she is already the cream of the crop, then it is time to move on. Finish out the rec season if you have already started it. The most perfect example I use came to me one year in T-Ball. Our rec T-ball league went from 4-8 years old, so you could have a 4yo on the same team with an 8 yo. This one boy on the opposing team was 8, probably getting ready to turn 9, if he hadn't already. He had played T-ball for 4 years in the league. He was always his teams last batter as the last batter got to run around the bases until a base in front of them was tagged (yes this league counted runs, wins and losses in T-Ball!). He could hit the ball to the fence and sometimes over it (they had that portable fence moved in so the little ones wouldn't have to run so far). He was getting absolutely nothing developmentally out of being there as he wasn't being challenged in the least, BUT HE WAS THE KING OF T-BALL!!!!!!!!
I never understood why, as a parent, you would want your son or DD to be the king of t-ball when it was obvious they were not growing their skills anymore. That is what is happening. Your DD is at the top of the pool of players. Ask your DXH why does he think the girls want to move on? He will probably find that the girls were tired of being the king of t-ball. they wanted to be challenged more and play with other girls that have the same desire and willingness to work harder and keep getting better. They are tired of the walk-a-thons so common in rec ball. They are tired of being lumped in with girls that don't want to be there.
They are ready to take their game TO THE NEXT LEVEL. i think the example of a 7th grader repeating the 5th grade is a good example. Yes you could redo the 5th grade, you would exceed at it, perhaps even be the Valedictorian, but you would still have a 7th grade education. You would be no more better prepared for 8th grade than you were a year before, except you might have an overestimated sense of your abilities to compete with 8th graders.