More coaches need to watch this is all I am going to say.
Crystal, you are just running into the local softball idiots. They don't understand what it is going on, so they make stuff up as they go.
You are learning the game from people that really know their stuff. Your knowledge of the sport is greater than most of the people you are around. You have to get used to being the smartest person in the room. (At most softball parents meetings, it isn't much of an accomplishment.)
I remember the first time I used dynamic stretching for my team...the amount of whining from the parents was unbelievable.