egotistical coach

This is true in every league I've experienced.
This year, I had a parent win 1st place in her league but they took the All-Star team from her because a board member wanted it and was worried she may play favorites between their pitcher DD's.

Another league had to make 2 All-Star teams because the #1 team's coach didn't want anyone else on her team. She wanted to keep her league team and make them a travel and All-Star team. That wasn't fair to any of the other players that were good enough for All-Stars so they made another team.

Another league picks their All-Star team mid season, just through saying which kids and parents they like and play them as a team in local B & C tournaments where only league teams are supposed to play, so they can win. When real All-Stars come around, if you weren't already selected mid-season, don't bother, there isn't a try-out.

Rocketech1 said:

JJ - just trying to understand what you said above. Before all-star tryouts you let the coaches know that you will be leaving the league for a more competitive league but are still having your younger DD tryout for all-stars and this information that you shared to them will not be a factor in whether or not she makes the team?

My experience with all-star voting is that its highly political and that player talent is secondary to favoritism, nepotism, and reciprocity

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Rocketech1 said:

JJ - just trying to understand what you said above. Before all-star tryouts you let the coaches know that you will be leaving the league for a more competitive league but are still having your younger DD tryout for all-stars and this information that you shared to them will not be a factor in whether or not she makes the team?

My experience with all-star voting is that its highly political and that player talent is secondary to favoritism, nepotism, and reciprocity

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I haven't exactly publicized it, but I have mentioned to a few people that it is time to move on so I just assume it is common knowledge. Not the wisest thing to do if I want to make sure my DD can play all stars I know :/

But she is really a top three player in her league so I figured she was safe for all stars. If she doesn't make the team she'll learn a hard lesson her sister learned a couple of years ago, that turned out great so I don't care one way or another to be frank. The less driving I have to do the better and we are gone in the fall anyway. She has really regressed this spring, she played TB last fall and got used to being a hitter and having to actually battle to get on base. This season she has been given so many free bases she is back to thinking it is a birthright. She wants to play all stars so I support it, but watching us lose a bunch of games is difficult and I know what we have to offer pitching wise and we are going to get MURDERED. Our best pitcher might crack 40 and she throws quite a few walks.

JJsqueeze said:

I haven't exactly publicized it, but I have mentioned to a few people that it is time to move on so I just assume it is common knowledge. Not the wisest thing to do if I want to make sure my DD can play all stars I know :/

But she is really a top three player in her league so I figured she was safe for all stars. If she doesn't make the team she'll learn a hard lesson her sister learned a couple of years ago...

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If she doesn't make it - and I do hope that she does, if she's one of the best players in your league - will the lesson be that her dad's talking to other people interfered with an opportunity for her?

SoftSocDad said:

If she doesn't make it - and I do hope that she does, if she's one of the best players in your league - will the lesson be that her dad's talking to other people interfered with an opportunity for her?

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Do you think that is the best lesson to be learned from this hypthetical situation?

People will try and get at parents through their kids. I had an umpire (other teams umpired on byes) illegal pitch me on every pitch. When my mother asked what I was doing wrong, was told to shut up and sit down. Wouldn't tell anyone what was illegal. When my mother tried to change me, he refused to allow time to be called. That game ended with every girl in the infield in tears, my mother being thrown out and the assistant coach pulling us all from the field. It was U12s.

We lodged a formal complaint, father from the other team who wasn't even there turned up and said it was all appropriate. Nothing untoward. When challenged by a board member (who had been pulled over by a parents on the other team) who stated he hadn't been there and he had been called by a parent from his team who was so worried over it, was told that he'd left before that point. My grandfather was president so he recused himself from any vote, nothing got done.

That same father who defended his friend (and karma got him, this guy defrauded him of thousands of dollars) ended up being my rep coach. He'd faced my grandfather as president and won. No grudge in our part(his daughter was a good friend) He benched me for years for a girl who couldn't catch a ball at first base, but had a better arm.

People will do anything to get back at people, even using their kids.

Another league had to make 2 All-Star teams because the #1 team's coach didn't want anyone else on her team.

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Priceless.