DD "B" is no longer a pitcher.

doug romrell said:

after several months of being frustrated with dd's lack of commitment to work on her pitching, yesterday i told her it was time for her to tell her hs coach that she was no longer going to be a pitcher. You see, i don't believe in her giving her coaches a false hope that she's going to be one of their pitchers, when it ain't gonna happen. Further, i didn't want her to steal pitching time from my other two dedicated pitchers who actually yearn to be pitchers. It was a very tough thing for me to tell her, but if it ain't in her heart to be a pitcher, it ain't there!

I'm a bit angered by it because it has a lot to do with what goes on with kids during their teenage years. Many lack an appreciation for the potential they have, but more than that, they often do the opposite of what their parents (or dad) sees as their potential. It's a rebellion of sorts. Oh well, years from now she will regret it, as my older daughter does now.

Part of the problem what that mommy/wife was never on board, so trying to get dd to practice pitching was not only a battle with dd but i also had mommy enabling dd. Yeah, that makes me quite angry. Oh well, the choices these kids make.

My focus will now be on "k" and mainly "m". I see "m" as a girl who will eventually really shine. The key will be getting the hs coaches, who are as back-woods as they get when it comes to recognizing good pitching mechanics, to recognize her more. "m" just going to have to take this by the horns and win the position outright a year or two down the road.

The dad is experiencing a lot of emotions right now--sad, bitter, angry, unappreciated, etc. Oh well, dads aren't suppose to have feelings.

Click to expand...

Amy in AZ. said:

Doug, are you married to the girl's mom? It doesn't sound like it.

Click to expand...

Amy in AZ. said:

I had to take my DD to a different pitching coach and I had to shut up. We drove from Flagstaff to Prescott every Sunday. 90 minutes, one way. But, you know what? The drive is what she remembers. Go figure.

Click to expand...

James Smith said:

DD will get going when she wants to.

She is #3 or #4 on her league team, #1 by far on her school team with the same pitchers.

DW does not want to change teams, DD and I are mixed. DW wears the pants in our family.

Click to expand...

Doug Romrell said:

I'm a bit angered by it because it has a lot to do with what goes on with kids during their teenage years. Many lack an appreciation for the potential they have, but more than that, they often do the opposite of what their parents (or dad) sees as their potential. It's a rebellion of sorts. Oh well, years from now she will regret it, as my older daughter does now.

Click to expand...

mann said:

wow, are you me????

Click to expand...

Doug Romrell said:

My wife doesn't think she wears the pants in our family, but she definitely does. I just get tired of her complete lack of support in this regard. It's like she never feels the need to motivate (in fact, does just the opposite behind the scenes), and that is what has been the problem here. No, it's not just my wife's fault, but I wish the three of us had been one unit in this regard. Anyone with a pitcher daughter knows it takes a great deal of dedication, not just from the girl, but also from the two parents.

Yeah, things such as these would be an area of weakness throughout our marriage. I guess we never drew enough lines in the sand early on in our marriage. I suppose I just backed down too easily all these years. I think what bothers me most is the enormous time commitment it has been on behalf of my DD. There simply aren't enough people willing to do this stuff. Anyone who has coached knows it is a vastly under-appreciated thing. It just hits you a lot harder when it ain't appreciated or valued by those closest to you. Of course, the out in left field person would be the type to instill a lack of appreciation in her players for any time their parents had spent helping them.

Click to expand...