DD's experiences this fall have had me thinking about what players really want in a team. This is a subject that has fascinated me from the time I formed a team and coached it from 10U through 12U. (Just a bleacher parent these days).
It's an important question, IMO, because too many well-meaning coaches take on teams for their own selfish reasons (competitive, ego needs) and not really to help kids, which requires that you give serious thought to why they play the game, and not why we think they ought to play it.
So, DD got on a team this fall in which she's possibly the least valuable player. For the first time in her 8 years of travel ball, her playing time has been limited somewhat. In about 30 games, she got 45 at-bats (team average was about 60). Played about 70 percent of the time in the field.
Nevertheless, she LOVES this team. She likes and enjoys her coaches and teammates and their positive energy. She fits in and feels valued.
I think that this is the most underrated thing that girls want out of softball. While they certainly can be very competitive and want to win, that's secondary IMO to the need to fit in. They'd rather fit in than win. They also really want to play and be on the field, but are willing to sacrifice some of that for a team that is family to them. I was discussing this w/ a good friend of mine who coaches other sports. He had a great quote:
''The older I get and the more I coach kids, the more it becomes clear. People want to be a part of a "family". Respected, having fun.........a healthy family environment. The memories are just sweeter when you feel comfortable and enjoy the people you are doing life with.''
Your thoughts?
It's an important question, IMO, because too many well-meaning coaches take on teams for their own selfish reasons (competitive, ego needs) and not really to help kids, which requires that you give serious thought to why they play the game, and not why we think they ought to play it.
So, DD got on a team this fall in which she's possibly the least valuable player. For the first time in her 8 years of travel ball, her playing time has been limited somewhat. In about 30 games, she got 45 at-bats (team average was about 60). Played about 70 percent of the time in the field.
Nevertheless, she LOVES this team. She likes and enjoys her coaches and teammates and their positive energy. She fits in and feels valued.
I think that this is the most underrated thing that girls want out of softball. While they certainly can be very competitive and want to win, that's secondary IMO to the need to fit in. They'd rather fit in than win. They also really want to play and be on the field, but are willing to sacrifice some of that for a team that is family to them. I was discussing this w/ a good friend of mine who coaches other sports. He had a great quote:
''The older I get and the more I coach kids, the more it becomes clear. People want to be a part of a "family". Respected, having fun.........a healthy family environment. The memories are just sweeter when you feel comfortable and enjoy the people you are doing life with.''
Your thoughts?