Coach Implodes Team for DD

YoungBuck · May 27, 2015

I hear regularly on this site of players moving from Team A to Team B for their benefit.

Is it common for a coach to quit on his team for his DD to make a similar move.

Recently had my DDs coach inform the parents he would be seeking out other opportunities. What's crazy is the parents still want to play in a few (2) more tournaments with him as the coach... just me or is that nuts ! ?

marriard · May 28, 2015

I see this at end of seasons all the time... mid-season not so much, but still way too often.

If it is a pre-announcement for end of season, then perhaps you stay through the season if he and his DD are committed to that, but if it is more 'I find another team for my DD and I leave that day' then I'd probably already be calling around looking for new opportunities for my DD myself or getting together with all the other parents and figuring out who is going to coach next because once you figure that out, you can ask him to not come back right then.

Seen it done both ways.

CoogansBluff · May 28, 2015

YoungBuck said:
I hear regularly on this site of players moving from Team A to Team B for their benefit.

Is it common for a coach to quit on his team for his DD to make a similar move.

Recently had my DDs coach inform the parents he would be seeking out other opportunities. What's crazy is the parents still want to play in a few (2) more tournaments with him as the coach... just me or is that nuts ! ?

Were there still tournaments on the calendar? Key detail missing. I assume so, since it's May. That would be unusual, but I've seen it happen at least once before, with games still to be played, where it was one of those 'best for my daughter' things.

YOCOACH · May 28, 2015

I've seen this happen more often with coaches whose DD pitches. They get the opportunity to place their DD on a high level team at the last minute and it's bye-bye leaving many families in trouble for the rest of the season. It actually happened to a friend's team last year. I offered him the same advice that marriard did when he called me. Have a parent meeting and offer to take over the team and coach it yourself. Then tell the old coach to not let the door hit him on the way out.

quandofloo · May 28, 2015

A friend of mine's DD is on a team that the coach pulled the team off the field during a game because his #1 pitcher's grandfather told him before the tournament that his GDD should not pitch every game that weekend as she was overly fatigued. After the first game, he repeated that to the coach and said that she didn't need to pitch the second game. Coach told him that he was planning to pitch his own DD for the second game so all was good. In the second inning the coach turned to my friend and said, "Watch this.", with a weird grin on his face and put the #1 pitcher back in. The grandfather approached the dugout and asked him what he was doing and the coach stepped onto the field and forfeited the game and essentially blew the team apart right there.

RetiredCoach · May 28, 2015

This explains a lot of what we see out there with "Daddy Ball", etc. These coaches aren't out there for all the girls. They are coaching to further the prospects of their DD, build up their egos, and nothing else. If I were involved with such a team I would feel very used.

durtyd26 · May 28, 2015

This whole "daddy ball" thing really bugs me. I see it some with the dads I coach with. Maybe I do it myself but I really hope not and how would I know. I feel like as coaches, we are there to teach softball but just as importantly, to teach life lessons. Committing to a team and then leaving for a better opportunity and leaving others out to dry is a poor lesson to teach. I have no delusions of my daughter being great and would sit her for the better of the team in a heartbeat. I try not to spend much time on her problems in practice, but make a mental note and work with her away from practice. Am I there because my daughter is playing? Yes. But I am completely committed to all of the girls on that team. Even outside of the season I will happily help the other girls if they ask. I guess the passion that a lot of coaches have leads to this. And my attitude is probably easier to have with us not being a top level team.

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RetiredCoach · May 28, 2015

durtyd26 said:
This whole "daddy ball" thing really bugs me. I see it some with the dads I coach with. Maybe I do it myself but I really hope not and how would I know. I feel like as coaches, we are there to teach softball but just as importantly, to teach life lessons. Committing to a team and then leaving for a better opportunity and leaving others out to dry is a poor lesson to teach. I have no delusions of my daughter being great and would sit her for the better of the team in a heartbeat. I try not to spend much time on her problems in practice, but make a mental note and work with her away from practice. Am I there because my daughter is playing? Yes. But I am completely committed to all of the girls on that team. Even outside of the season I will happily help the other girls if they ask. I guess the passion that a lot of coaches have leads to this. And my attitude is probably easier to have with us not being a top level team.

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This is my attitude as well. I tell my DDs that you know that you are my favorites but when I am coaching I am there to help all of the girls.

undergroundga · May 28, 2015

So when and how is the best way for a coach to exit a team? Especially when it will kill the team.

marriard · May 28, 2015

undergroundga said:
So when and how is the best way for a coach to exit a team? Especially when it will kill the team.

End of season.

"I have decided I am not going to coach next season" or "I have decided I am going to join org X and coach their XX-U team"/

Give parents & players the whole off-season to decide on the next step.

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