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Feb 12, 2014
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I have read often that coaches check on the social media accounts of perspective recruits to get a feel of the type of person they may be bringing into their program. While, I am not really sure how much this factors into whether or not to make an offer (5 star recruits with crappy social media presence will still get scholarships), it can obviously be a factor for a fringe kid.

My DD is 12 and does not have any social media accounts due to the fact that she has mean parents. I assume that at some point, we'll break down and let her sign up for something. But, my question today is how do coaches view it when a player has no social media exposure? Is this considered worse than someone who has a good social media background? Do they assume the kid is hiding their identity and it's therefore a negative?
 
Sep 29, 2014
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Better they see no presence than one littered with junk. I would suggest really making her understand that she needs to treat social media like the front page of a newspaper. Ask yourself would you be OK with this on the front page of the newspaper before you post. Easiest thing is to probably do something like Facebook where she is just sharing food, pet and vacation picture, she friends you and has it set so friends can see all her info. I'm not tech savvy but instagram and snapchat seems to be where kids go off the rails.

I only say because I failed.
 
Jun 12, 2015
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Also walk her through privacy settings, when the day comes. I have mine set up to avoid political debates ;) Of course I don't think the kids like FB, only the old people. So I'm not sure what the options are in whatever it is they're using. But I'm sure they have something similar, where she can have lists or something along those lines so that people can't see what she posts if she doesn't want them to.
 

Me_and_my_big_mouth

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Sep 11, 2014
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I hate Snapchat. I don't think that the kids understand how awful it is. We harp on it all the time - and I've uninstalled it several times, and we will take her phone and open her Snaps any time we feel the need.

We have intercepted Snaps of other kids drinking and bragging about it, boys asking for "booty" pics, and girls swearing and using other offensive language. While it hasn't been ours sending this foolishness, she is seeing it. That's been tough because let's face it - she's in high school and we can't begin to imagine what she's seeing - but we won't stop driving the point home that it takes one screenshot or copied video to change a life.

Oh we told her that the next request for booty pics, DH is sending some of his hairy gorilla butt.
 
Feb 19, 2012
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When she is older and if she does an overnight camp with players, her conduct at that time is similar to a job interview. The players are deciding if this is someone they want on their team-did the player take instruction well, did the player implement the changes, how was her attitude. Off the field, were they social, argumentative, behaved, respectful? Are they a good fit for the school and the team?
 

Me_and_my_big_mouth

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Sep 11, 2014
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I think the basic rule of thumb is approx 29 years old and younger use twitter.... 30 and above use facebok
And 20 and under use Instagram. We are getting dumbed down further and further - no more discussions like on Facebook, and not even 140 characters of dialogue in a Tweet. Nope, our kids don't even use words anymore - just pictures on Instagram, on 30 second vines, karaoke on musicaly, and 7 second snaps of their best double chins or half their faces...

I don't get it. But I'm old.
 
Dec 2, 2013
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When she is older and if she does an overnight camp with players, her conduct at that time is similar to a job interview. The players are deciding if this is someone they want on their team-did the player take instruction well, did the player implement the changes, how was her attitude. Off the field, were they social, argumentative, behaved, respectful? Are they a good fit for the school and the team?

This is very true. Just heard a local kid went on her official visit staying with the current players and doing what you do on an official. The coach dropped her! The players on the team told the coach that she wouldn't be a good fit for the program. This is all hearsay at this point, but seemed pretty credible. Maybe the kid said something inappropriate? Who knows, but if everything that I am hearing is true, it is truly heartbreaking for the family. Lessons learned.
 

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