Recruiting journey: when DD tells coaches that she committed

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Oct 10, 2014
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Peach State
DD is a 2017 committed to a D2. There was a D3 that was DD's front runner for a long time. As excited as she was to commit, she hurt to tell the other school that she had decided to go another direction. She felt like the Coach of the D3 was rude when she told them about her commitment. She cried over thinking that she made someone "mad" with her decision. I know she is a stressed teenage girl, with tender emotions. I told her that it's no different than the coaches who told her thanks, but no thanks.

So, does anyone have good stories about a similar situation? I know she can't be the only one to experience this. Should she respond to the D3 Coach? She doesn't want to burn any bridges? Especially considering that she recommended the D3 to friends who are still in the process.
 
Oct 19, 2009
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beyond the fences
Growing pains! My DD turned down several d2 offers 2 of which were nearly
full rides based on academic + athletics. She held out for her dream school and is now happily playing
d3. Although it costs the family more, she is in a Happy Place!

When calling the d2 coaches, she had tears in her eyes. Everything works out for the best- ENJOY!
 
Oct 10, 2014
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Peach State
DD called, but I think it would depend on the relationship with the Coach. However, she just froze and said thank you before hanging up when she thought the Coach was being rude.
 
Jul 14, 2010
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NJ/PA
Think that's tough...try decommitting after developing a very solid relationship with a coach. DD got some interest from a school that was a much better fit after committing pretty early (fall of her sophomore year), but could not visit while she was already verbaled (per the interested coach). Took her chances and ended up in a better place, but that was a tough phone call to make.
 
Oct 10, 2014
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Peach State
Think that's tough...try decommitting after developing a very solid relationship with a coach. DD got some interest from a school that was a much better fit after committing pretty early (fall of her sophomore year), but could not visit while she was already verbaled (per the interested coach). Took her chances and ended up in a better place, but that was a tough phone call to make.

I bet that was a tough phone call.
 
Oct 17, 2014
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Okay, question...do they have to call? Can't they just text the news? :-/

If it were a coach that had serious interest, definitely call. Texting the coach would be like a girlfriend texting her boyfriend to say she wants to break up. Not the example you want to set for your daughter.....Or you text someone to turn down a job offer.
 

Cannonball

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Feb 25, 2009
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We had BB call every school that made an offer when she made her choice. Ironically, that didn't end the recruitment.
 

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