My dd says she wants to play college ball and wants to go to a D1 school, however, we don't feel she puts in the extra effort to get there. She's a pitcher. Playing D1 ball is a lot of work and we don't think she gets just how much work it takes. My husband and I go back forth on how much we should push her.. If she really wants it she'll put in the extra work on her own, right?
My husband is very frustrated because he knows she has the talent, but she just doesn't have the drive we think she should. She really needs to work on her east/west pitches, but she would rather spend more time on her phone and on her social life. She's 16 and a sophomore and plays on a well known travel team. She has a couple of mid level D1 schools looking at her and she does send out emails, but it's usually after we have asked her. We have also talked to her about looking at D2 and D3 schools, but she is adamant about playing D1. I think this has to do with a few of her softball friends already getting verbals at D1 schools.
We just don't know what to do.. We know we can't want it more than her, but we just don't know how much we should push her or if we should. If you have a daughter going through the recruiting process or have gone through it, can you tell me how much your daughter worked on her own without being asked or pushed? We just don't know if this is normal for this age. She talks about wanting one thing, but doesn't put the work in. Do we stop sending her to camps unless she starts putting in more effort? Maybe we're asking too much from her..
Thanks for any input!
My husband is very frustrated because he knows she has the talent, but she just doesn't have the drive we think she should. She really needs to work on her east/west pitches, but she would rather spend more time on her phone and on her social life. She's 16 and a sophomore and plays on a well known travel team. She has a couple of mid level D1 schools looking at her and she does send out emails, but it's usually after we have asked her. We have also talked to her about looking at D2 and D3 schools, but she is adamant about playing D1. I think this has to do with a few of her softball friends already getting verbals at D1 schools.
We just don't know what to do.. We know we can't want it more than her, but we just don't know how much we should push her or if we should. If you have a daughter going through the recruiting process or have gone through it, can you tell me how much your daughter worked on her own without being asked or pushed? We just don't know if this is normal for this age. She talks about wanting one thing, but doesn't put the work in. Do we stop sending her to camps unless she starts putting in more effort? Maybe we're asking too much from her..
Thanks for any input!