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Sep 18, 2011
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After receiving an offer, do you let other schools on your short list know that you have received an offer? And if the answer is yes, how in the world do you let them know?? Just seems impossible to do that with any tact. "Hi coach just an fyi that your conference rival made me an offer so unless you want to watch me hit homers all day for the other team I suggest you step up your game and make me an offer asap." I mean no matter how you phrase it, that's what it is going to sound like, right? Do travel ball coaches make these calls like some sort of realtor advising everyone to put their best offers on the table because a decsion is coming soon? I cannot imagine that that would be well received.
 
Sep 24, 2013
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"Do travel ball coaches make these calls like some sort of realtor advising everyone to put their best offers on the table because a decsion is coming soon? "

^^^ The mediator simply says "Athlete xxx has told me they intend to make a decision by xxx"
 
Dec 7, 2011
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We assume you accepted a verbal already?

Be VERY careful with what kind of "negotiations" you might engage with in School A while verballed to school B.

Our expereince is that softball can be a VERY tight community and you might be shocked how "the word" gets out.

Regardless, If the currently verballed school is NOT DD's dream school a reach out might be in order (taking the risk).

A very individual decision YOU got to make.

In this type of communication I gotta belive best would be from the player to the school. (I have not heard of HC's acting as brokers but I would not be surprised in bigger markets)
 
Sep 18, 2011
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We assume you accepted a verbal already? QUOTE]

Absolutely not! Right now it's just an offer. We were told to think about it with no time table to respond (very classy I thought). Once DD verbals, there will be no other "negotiations." I can promise you that.
 
Feb 17, 2014
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Much has to do with the school and the offer received. How specific was the offer? Did they say what would be covered and what amounts? Were there any conditions? Unless it was specific and sans conditions you are not done. Even then understand that nothing is binding. Until the NLI is signed either party may back out at any time. If the coach leaves or gets fired you will most likely be back on the market. Unless you are only months away from signing an NLI or have a phenomenal offer you are foolish to take yourself off the market.

Yes, saying no is very hard and certainly a character builder. My DD just turned down several offers including one from an SEC school to play in 2015 and it was gut wrenching for her to say no and wait it out. But the parent or HC has no place in that conversation.
 
Jan 18, 2010
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Yes, saying no is very hard and certainly a character builder. My DD just turned down several offers including one from an SEC school to play in 2015 and it was gut wrenching for her to say no and wait it out. But the parent or HC has no place in that conversation.

First of all congrats, what a magical time you've got ahead. When you say "she's waiting it out", why? The monetary offers are not what's she needs, the educational values are not what she's looking for?

I believe a parent, and I feel you are a good one, should have many places in "that" conversation. As parents, we are still guiding our children. The parent or legal guardian ( unless she's over 21 ) still has to sign the NLI in order for it to be valid, correct?
 
Feb 17, 2014
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First of all congrats, what a magical time you've got ahead. When you say "she's waiting it out", why? The monetary offers are not what's she needs, the educational values are not what she's looking for?

I believe a parent, and I feel you are a good one, should have many places in "that" conversation. As parents, we are still guiding our children. The parent or legal guardian ( unless she's over 21 ) still has to sign the NLI in order for it to be valid, correct?

I think the parent/guardian signs until age 18 which is the age when they can enter a legally binding contract. But I may be wrong.

For my DD it was a choice between getting an offer and showing up to play at a 4 year school within 30-45 days or spending another season in NJCAA. While the offer was great it was too sudden and her dream school has dollars and interest in her for 2016. She throws against them this Fall and we hope to have a great meeting with the HC after her outing. :)

When I say that the parent or HC has no place in the conversation, I was referring to accepting or declining an offer. I think that needs to come from the prospect as it is their moment. As far as negotiations and such my DD, even though she is 19 going on 30 wants me there and I will be happy to oblige.
 
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Jan 18, 2010
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Sweet man, hope she lands the dream. Dreams are too far and between in today's society.

I still think it's 21 for the NLI, unless they've changed the rule lately. I'll have to google it when I get home.
 
Jan 18, 2010
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Sweet man, hope she lands the dream. Dreams are too far and between in today's society.

I still think it's 21 for the NLI, unless they've changed the rule lately. I'll have to google it when I get home.

Still need the parent or guardian until 21, had to call my man......( dang brother to be honest ). lol
 

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