At 16A, I'd be furious if the HC of any team my DD was on didn't respond that way. At 12U and older, disregarding coaches instructions and obviously...
And, as soon as F3 returns the ball to F1, the batter/runner, who will have stopped on 1B because F3 had the ball, will start skipping to 2B. Again,...
Start #2 and go with her as long as you can. If #2 loses effectiveness, you've got to have a quick hook and make the change before the game gets out...
Use the the NECC DVD (or at least the videos on their catchingcamp.com website) as a reality check. The trouble w/ local catching talent/instruction...