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A little hit and miss but this was my Favorite:
My life, my fears, my goals, my challenges, and my dreams are different from anyone you’ve ever coached before.
A little hit and miss but this was my Favorite:
My life, my fears, my goals, my challenges, and my dreams are different from anyone you’ve ever coached before.
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This is perfect. Loved it. Thanks for sharing.
That list should be mandatory reading for every coach, at the start of every season.
My DD just finished two difficult seasons with a coach who yelled, favoured players and demanded perfection from a group of 13/14 YO's but didn't demand it of himself.
Three that hit home:
2.It means a lot to me when you take the time to acknowledge my effort and commitment.
12.I hate getting yelled at, but I love to win.
20.I understand that you like players who work hard. Heck I appreciate those types of players as a teammate, but it’s annoying when you favor players who don’t deserve it.
My DD just finished two difficult seasons with a coach who yelled, favoured players and demanded perfection from a group of 13/14 YO's but didn't demand it of himself.
Three that hit home:
2.It means a lot to me when you take the time to acknowledge my effort and commitment.
12.I hate getting yelled at, but I love to win.
20.I understand that you like players who work hard. Heck I appreciate those types of players as a teammate, but it’s annoying when you favor players who don’t deserve it.
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Too many young people start with the presumption that they and adults are equals.
I'm not a fan of 3, 5, 6, 9, 13 or the entitlement complex so many parents are cultivating today.
I'm not a fan of 3, 5, 6, 9, 13 or the entitlement complex so many parents are cultivating today.
So ultimately SoftSocDad you believe that adults are always 100% right and kids should just shut up and respect them?
Respect is earnt. Even adults need to do that. They might get fear, they might get them to do what they need to. But kids don't have to respect anyone. They should be taught to be POLITE to them though.
Respect is earnt. Even adults need to do that. They might get fear, they might get them to do what they need to. But kids don't have to respect anyone. They should be taught to be POLITE to them though.
Having coached 12-14 year olds for several years, I have to agree that these are very common attitudes.
I might add a couple:
"I expect you to treat everyone EQUALLY. However there may be times I need you to treat me FAIRLY"
and
"Yes you are my Coach, but I want to please my parents, (or teammates, boyfriend, etc.) there are times that I may listen to them more than I do you."
I might add a couple:
"I expect you to treat everyone EQUALLY. However there may be times I need you to treat me FAIRLY"
and
"Yes you are my Coach, but I want to please my parents, (or teammates, boyfriend, etc.) there are times that I may listen to them more than I do you."
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My DD just finished two difficult seasons with a coach who yelled, favoured players and demanded perfection from a group of 13/14 YO's but didn't demand it of himself.
SoftSocDad is not one to flap his jaws, so:
I get SoftSocDad's point about this one...Is it up to the player to decide what should or should not happen at the practice? Players want to do drills that they like (i.e., bat) but not the ones that are helpful (e.g., running up sand dunes in the rain).
A coach should be able to explain "why" they are doing a particular drill, but players don't have a right to disengage because they disagree with the coach.
I gotta go with SoftSoc on this. Players should start off respecting the coaches. The coaches might lose the respect, but the default starting point is that the players should respect the coaches.
I'm not sure where this is going...Is this that a coach should acknowledge that she is human? Or that the coach should take responsibility for a loss?
I have a problem with this statement for a lot of reasons. My main problem is that "excuse" and "reason" are almost synonymous. A coach should listen to the reason a player does XYZ, just as a player should listen to the reason a coach did ABC. When does a "reason" become an "excuse"?
Perhaps a 20 YOA player might be able to tell a coach what the coach does well. I'm not sure the same can be said for an 8U rec player.
And, those were SoftSoc's, so I'll add a couple of more:
But, of course, that is what separates the "good" players from the so-so players...and this applies to everything in life. A person who does something because she needs praise won't go far. Being "good" at sports (or anything) requires internal motivation.
The people who get the rewards are those who perform during the game, not those who work the hardest off the field. There is usually a correlation between the amount of work and the performance during the game, but not always. Sorry, but that is the way it is.
And, if you think a competitive coach is going to bench her best player because she takes it easy in practice, you're crazy.
In other words, lie to some of the players. The unfortunate reality of sports is that some players are *not* good enough and never will be.
I've seen coaches use this technique to get marginal players to stay on the team because they need practice players.
Baldnbeautiful:
Kind of misses the whole point of being on a team, doesn't it? "I'll do whatever Daddy says because they know more than the coach."
I get SoftSocDad's point about this one...Is it up to the player to decide what should or should not happen at the practice? Players want to do drills that they like (i.e., bat) but not the ones that are helpful (e.g., running up sand dunes in the rain).
A coach should be able to explain "why" they are doing a particular drill, but players don't have a right to disengage because they disagree with the coach.
I gotta go with SoftSoc on this. Players should start off respecting the coaches. The coaches might lose the respect, but the default starting point is that the players should respect the coaches.
I'm not sure where this is going...Is this that a coach should acknowledge that she is human? Or that the coach should take responsibility for a loss?
I have a problem with this statement for a lot of reasons. My main problem is that "excuse" and "reason" are almost synonymous. A coach should listen to the reason a player does XYZ, just as a player should listen to the reason a coach did ABC. When does a "reason" become an "excuse"?
Perhaps a 20 YOA player might be able to tell a coach what the coach does well. I'm not sure the same can be said for an 8U rec player.
And, those were SoftSoc's, so I'll add a couple of more:
But, of course, that is what separates the "good" players from the so-so players...and this applies to everything in life. A person who does something because she needs praise won't go far. Being "good" at sports (or anything) requires internal motivation.
The people who get the rewards are those who perform during the game, not those who work the hardest off the field. There is usually a correlation between the amount of work and the performance during the game, but not always. Sorry, but that is the way it is.
And, if you think a competitive coach is going to bench her best player because she takes it easy in practice, you're crazy.
In other words, lie to some of the players. The unfortunate reality of sports is that some players are *not* good enough and never will be.
I've seen coaches use this technique to get marginal players to stay on the team because they need practice players.
Baldnbeautiful:
Kind of misses the whole point of being on a team, doesn't it? "I'll do whatever Daddy says because they know more than the coach."
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I think the list is fairly true of all players some of the time, even the good ones. The list wasn't implying the players should be catered to, but they are truths. The best players and employees overcome the feelings in the list and perform anyway. A good coach (or any people manager for that matter) understands that not everyone is the perfect little robotic team player all of the time, but understands that each person, adult or child has different motivators and uses them to bring out the best in each.
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