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Feb 9, 2009
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I would make sure to inform your board before you meet again on friday.
Done.
Obviously, the problem is that you couldn't be there to handle that stuff the moment it began crossing the line,
Exactly! And my parents knew me too well to misbehave in my absence...Actually, they know me too well to misbehave in my presence, too!!
If I were in a coaching position and this was going on during an 8u/10u or even 12u game, I'd pull my team off the field immediately.
This is going to be my response if it starts up again, with no repercussions from the umpires. I have notified the director and requested he make the lead official aware, and the 10U director has told me he will attend the game. I refuse to allow something like this to be the last memory these kids have of their spring season...
 
Oct 19, 2009
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10U rec ? advise the board, inform parents that your team will not stoop
to the low level of previous meeting. Go out and hammer them on the field
while exhibiting sportsmanship and class
 
Feb 26, 2010
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I held off in responding until folks could give you good advice. Now I'll give you bad advice that hopefully makes you laugh.

Rather than avoid his hand shake or give him a hand shake through gritted teeth...

When he reaches out for it put a copy of your association rule book in there open to the appropriate section and page for the sportsmanship rules. Highlighting and margin notes optional but highly recommended.

If you want to pull the dirt in on yourself on the hole you just dug bring a second copy for the ump. :D

For God sake don't do it...but if you do tell me if he cried.
 
Feb 9, 2009
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held my own tonight...
team played GREAT! but we lost...5-4, extra innings. DD pitched great! (we won't talk about he umps in this thread...)
End of game, after teams shake hands, the other coach yells to his team "That's good girls, they're a bunch of losers and we're going to the championship!"
(did I mention this is REC LEAGUE?)
My assist. coach lost it...there was a shouting match, and when the other coach started coming across the field back at my team, I confronted him and made him walk backwards to his dugout...
And when his wife put her finger in my face, I laughed at her, and walked away...
(...Did I mention I'm only 5'2"...but I think I'm much bigger...)

It ended ugly...but my team was the better team...and we held our heads up high. Director was there, and after all was said and done, he made sure the other coach understood that he was SO in the wrong, and that I was completely right to prevent him from aggressively approaching my 10 year old little girls...

And now...my DD tries out for select tomorrow...
Thanks for the support, guys!!!
 
May 8, 2009
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Good for you, I think you handled it well. If the director was there and heard and saw all of it, I think the coach should have been suspended pending removal. I don t think rec or travel matters. We had an incident with an asst coach this year and he was removed. Really this was a nice guy too. We dont want that in the organization and take a no tolerance approach.
 

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May 26, 2008
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End of game, after teams shake hands, the other coach yells to his team "That's good girls, they're a bunch of losers and we're going to the championship!"

Nothing like a coach who is more immature than his 10U players...
 
Jun 14, 2010
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Coach's boorish behavior

It is really too bad that there can't be some type of process in place to make sure the coaches who are teaching and coaching our DD's are well behaved. I think regardless of wins and losses during a season, many girls look back at the behavior and attitudes that we as coaches display during both the good and bad times during the season. I am currently coaching a 10u rec team; I have two goals for the season: 1. The girls learn about the game of softball and improve throughout the course of the season.
2. THEY HAVE FUN!!!!!!!

If we stress the fundamentals and make the game fun for them they will continue to work on the fundamentals and the wins will come.

Now, I will put my soapbox away. Stephanie, you handled it the way I would have. Good for you to not stoop down to their level.
 
Jul 16, 2008
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held my own tonight...
team played GREAT! but we lost...5-4, extra innings. DD pitched great! (we won't talk about he umps in this thread...)
End of game, after teams shake hands, the other coach yells to his team "That's good girls, they're a bunch of losers and we're going to the championship!"
(did I mention this is REC LEAGUE?)
My assist. coach lost it...there was a shouting match, and when the other coach started coming across the field back at my team, I confronted him and made him walk backwards to his dugout...
And when his wife put her finger in my face, I laughed at her, and walked away...
(...Did I mention I'm only 5'2"...but I think I'm much bigger...)

It ended ugly...but my team was the better team...and we held our heads up high. Director was there, and after all was said and done, he made sure the other coach understood that he was SO in the wrong, and that I was completely right to prevent him from aggressively approaching my 10 year old little girls...

And now...my DD tries out for select tomorrow...
Thanks for the support, guys!!!

Well if the director was there and saw all that, especially after hearing other complaints... why doesn't he actually do something? Instead he tells him that he was wrong... Sorry, if I had been the director, I would have told that coach to turn in his stuff his "coaching" is no longer needed.
 

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