Amy in AZ.

The same thing happened to my son at 12. It still can make me mad and he will be 25 in Aug.

A good coach finds a way to use all of his players in a productive way.

A good coach would have also found a time to talk to you.

CoachJimKrusherz18U

Pitchin,

I agree with Amy on all points, and what a coach to take it out on a child. The league definitely needs to know about this person, so he doesn't coach again or not in the head coach capacity.

Having been a head coach and been in that scenario, I usually tell my parents in the beginning, if you have questions for me resulting from a game please ask them at the next practice or next day. I usually get the look and I explain. I'm generally competitive. The coaching staff and I will talk with the team after the game on what we did correctly and what we need improvement on. After we discuss that, I'm usually not in the frame of mind to answer any questions, the game is still running through my mind, more so if we lost badly. Best thing to do is catch me after it's all over and I've had time to think about the game as a whole. I'm sure I'm not the only coach that is that way.

My advice to any parent with something like this, which is something that definitely needed to be addressed, is to wait until the next practice or the next day to talk with your coach. Sometimes, depending on the coach, a little heads up via email is effective. After the game has been gone through in their head, they can mull it over as to why are the "jones" emailing me that they have a question for me. Once you have them in person, pull them away from the team and go somewhere private where it can't be heard by other parents or players. Don't feed the rumor mill or grapevine. Hopefully, you can come to a peaceful resolution.

Maybe he just screwed up and realized it too late and it wasn't something intentional. If that was the case and he's any kind of coach, he'll walk right out with you and apologize to your child. Confronting him right after put him on the defense because once he saw you and your upset child, he realized he was wrong or messed up and it hurt his ego.

pitchin

My son was going to hand in his uniform but we thought he deserved an explanation first so he confronted the coach and he did appologize and let us know that one person had to sit every game so that they had a sub on the bench in case someone gets hurt. Ok, I understand that ruling, but I still have a problem with 1/2 inning of a blow out during pool play. So, I guess we can agree to disagree. We were eliminated from the tournament so it's over. I guess we can decide what it looks like next year and hopefully a new coach.

Thanks for the reply.

CoachKevin

Ran into this one this year. Scenario: Bases loaded 2 outs, I'm the 3rd base coach. Batter strikes out but it's a DTS. I yell at our runner on 3rd to go, she starts to go, stops, returns to 3rd, then starts to home again (she is brand new never has played softball before). bottom line she is tagged out between home and 3rd.

While we were taking the field (last inning) another player runs by the parents of the girl running from 3B and says, "I'm so mad at your daughter". My assistant coach hears her and tells me about it. I confront the player after the game and tell her that what she did was totally unacceptable and if I ever hear of anything like that again she will be dismissed off the team. I go on and tell her she needs to apologize to the parents. Well about 3 minutes later while we are move gear out of the dugout, the player's mom comes over and starts screaming at me telling me that her daughter was just joking around, and how she fu@#ing hates me.
To me it doesn't matter if the player was joking or not, that was disrespectful and I cannot believe how the parent reacted to this. I guess the apples don't fall far from the tree. The joys of being a volunteer coach!!!