And I swear that 95% of team drama could be prevented by the parents minding their own business, and not trying to run the team. That's the coach's job...
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And I swear that 95% of team drama could be prevented by the parents minding their own business, and not trying to run the team. That's the coach's job...
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It's not about running the team or making decisions. Just understanding them.
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No this isn't daddy ball and surprisingly her talent level is in the bottom 1/3 ...she was projected to be our starting f3 but her replacement took full advantage of her missing practice and is becoming a great ball player and our starting f3 ( Great kid). My personal feeling is the HC don't want to make it tough on his kid in school since this girl is one of her best friends. I know at one point a parent showed the coach a FB post of her bragging about being at a girls party with a time stamp on it when she should of been at practice.
The team is their business, but running the team is not. It's a fine line, I guess. IMO, parents have the right to ask the coach any question, if it's respectfully asked. In the case of the OP, parents may ask the head coach his thinking behind this. What is troublesome is stirring up dissent among other parents.
I have learned not to ask or open my mouth. I had a pitching student that was court ordered to see her abusive father, at the court house. That took place every week. The poor girl wouldn't even tell the coach. She was good and girls that weren't as good, ran their mouths. It was pretty bad.
I think reasonable team rules regarding practice vs playing time have there place. However like all rules/laws they can bite the team, the player, parents or coach in the butt. Seen one I wasnt involved with. Team really only had one pitcher that they stood a chance of winning with. Had team rule miss practice sit a game that evenly and always enforced. #1 had what everyone considered legit reason to miss practice. Nxt game had to sit #1 by the rules, no guarantee but would probably went down as a W had #1 pitched instead weak #2 pitched and team gets the L. Some times rules are put in place that a coach can't really enforce without punishing the whole team. Fine line as others mentioned.
That seems like a form of daddy ball right there.
Agreed 100%.
I tell my kids, the teachers that report to me, to focus on what you can control and not worry about the rest. In the scenario i mentioned before about my dd, i dont have a problem with the other parents knowing what we are doing. Honestly, is it any of their business? there are other examples on here where the parents dont need to know.
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Parents (good ones) have no desire to run the team - however, everyone is paying good money to play and it is not unreasonable that parents are concerned when obvious inequities are occurring with no explanations by the coaches. Communication is the key - this is not school ball and it is not like players have no choices to move. Frankly my daughter is my business and at 12U B level - this should be about developing players as much as about winning. If coaches just TALKED to parents and players a lot of drama could be avoided.
- Sep 29, 2014
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This is simply not black and white...as others have mentioned a parent/girl might tell you exactly why they can't make practice BUT it is not your job to relay that to other parents that is between you and the family many times it is sensitive information (custody situations are the worst). Then as the coach it's on you to do what you think is the right thing that is why you are the coach.
Again control what you can control...if your DD is at every practice and game and if she is top half of talent you should expect to be out there almost every inning, if you are not one of two things is going on 1) your DD is not as good in the coaches eyes as she is in your eyes, in which case you need to have a "what can I do to improve" conversation with the coach 2) coach has ulterior motives that don't involve what is best for your DD and the team in which case you decide if you can live with that or if it is time to look for another team
Again control what you can control...if your DD is at every practice and game and if she is top half of talent you should expect to be out there almost every inning, if you are not one of two things is going on 1) your DD is not as good in the coaches eyes as she is in your eyes, in which case you need to have a "what can I do to improve" conversation with the coach 2) coach has ulterior motives that don't involve what is best for your DD and the team in which case you decide if you can live with that or if it is time to look for another team
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