Difficult and Touchy subject

I think he wants to know what to do if relationship goes bad and splits the team

I have some very specific personal beliefs about this topic in general. I've spent a lot of time thinking about it; you kind of have to in the world we live in. But no matter what anyone's own personal beliefs on the matter, you can't live another person's life or make another person's choices. A Head Coach is responsible for the environment of the team he or she leads. I understand that issues can arise in that team environment, but they don't have to be created. If something does come up, then it probably is going to be very difficult. I hope we all first convey that we truly care about the well-being of our players and team first, and that any issues - whatever their nature - are approached through that mantle of care.

4KidsDad said:

I've been self-employed for many years now so I wouldn't know. . .

Do companies typically allow relationships (of any kind) at the workplace?

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Rule of thumb - non-issue as long as it's not a boss-employee situation.

Nunyabiz........
Your opening a can of worms.

4KidsDad said:

I've been self-employed for many years now so I wouldn't know. . .

Do companies typically allow relationships (of any kind) at the workplace?

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supervisors are not allowed to have a relationship with a subordinate. Alo where I work (large corporation) they are not allowed to be in the same department working for the same manager.

I don't see it as a huge problem even if they split up. I see girls groups change all the time as one gets mad at the other but in general they
can make it work. I would actually think it would be worse if one girl started dating another's ex boyfriend.

jacman said:

If something does come up, then it probably is going to be very difficult. I hope we all first convey that we truly care about the well-being of our players and team first, and that any issues - whatever their nature - are approached through that mantle of care.

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Not sure what you're saying. So let's say something comes up. How would a coach approach it through the mantle of care? What would that look like vs. a different approach? People have different opinions about what it means to care. Sometimes very caring people overstep their boundaries, with good intentions. I like coaches who care about their players. Too many don't. But some things they care about might be, as some have said, none of their business. So I'd say it depends on what kind of caring that you mean, IMO.

CoogansBluff said:

Not sure what you're saying. So let's say something comes up. How would a coach approach it through the mantle of care? What would that look like vs. a different approach? People have different opinions about what it means to care. Sometimes very caring people overstep their boundaries, with good intentions. I like coaches who care about their players. Too many don't. But some things they care about might be, as some have said, none of their business. So I'd say it depends on what kind of caring that you mean, IMO.

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I agree with that. Same goes for alot of terms, though. They are so relative, you know? Seems to me like it should always come down to a deep look at our own motives for whatever we are wanting to or intending to do as a coach.

I'm going to try to be very careful in my response here. To be blunt, there is more to it than this breakup potential. There is also the possibility of bullying to those teammates that don't think alike. That bullying can go both ways.

There is no avoiding the subject, no matter the sport. Once the girls are over 18, is when the problems were really bad. We had major problems over who roomed with who and who wanted absolutely nothing to do with the relationships.