- Aug 26, 2015
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Well stated. Thanks for the perspective.
What am I missing here???
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- May 9, 2013
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You're welcome. If it becomes a pattern of disrespect rather than just not being focused once-in-a-while I think you are completely right to address it. Maybe just as a conversation a little later the first time with increasing firmness if it becomes a pattern. We've been through a few cycles of "attitude" in 14 years. Luckily she always seems to come out of it with some new understanding. There has been some cycles tougher than others that involve some serious punishment - usually involving the Iphone. LOL
I think it's a good point to distinguish between lack of respect and lack of effort. Big difference.
In some situations, lack of best effort is lack of respect, like college softball teams. But not 10U rec ball. Parents get too bent out of shape about effort and the ''I just want you to do your best'' mantra. It's recreational. Some use rec sports to take a break from ''always do your best.'' If we as adults play a volleyball game at the family reunion, are we out for blood? Why not? Because we've got too many other things that really matter that require our best, like our job and family. We want to relax. Kids are the same. Some use rec sports to compete really hard. Others use it to relax. Most have a mixture of the two, and they might change from day to day.
- Aug 26, 2015
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Maybe I'm old school, but when an adult gives a child an instruction (that's reasonable), not following it....or eyerolls accompanying following it, that's disrespect in my book. Doesn't matter what DD is doing, she HAS to have the right attitude about it. That's different than not hustling on the dirt or not diving for a ball. I'm with you on the effort part, though. Choosing to take plays (or even a whole practice) off should NOT be a major deal. You're spot on when you said that no one is ON 100% of the time (paraphrasing you of course).
- Aug 26, 2015
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That's in regard to loafing, which both teams did the entire scrimmage. Having an attitude and being disrespectful is a whole different issue altogether imho.
Remember that these are 10U girls. On offense, they get to sit in the dugout, chant, talk with their besties, check their phones, yell at their parents thru the fence to buy them snacks and maybe hit the ball and run some bases!
Playing defense is akin to making them listen to a lecture on market capitalization of insurance bonds.
Playing defense is akin to making them listen to a lecture on market capitalization of insurance bonds.
I agree. I wouldn't overreact to it, but I would broach the subject w/ DD, for sure.
NOT ONLY NO BUT HELL NO - no player phones in the dugout - EVER.
- Aug 26, 2015
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Yeah....that's what I thought I was doing. Send her to outfield for the rest of the game. Calmly explained the next day (when I didn't have veins popping out the side of my neck) so she could hear not just what I was saying, but the intent behind it. She seemed to get it. No issues or anything. She even explained her reasoning. Felt like it didn't matter because it was just a scrimmage and we'd beat that team 9-0. Still second guessing my decision to put her out there now, though.
