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Sep 30, 2015
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I am the HC of a first year 14u team that is primarily composed of girls new to TB. We played in our second tournament of the fall last weekend and we continue to show improvement. I have one girl that is a borderline player, sometimes gives a noticeable effort but her mom is truly making waves through the dugout and the bleachers. My question is, how long do I put up with the mom's antics and disruption before I cut them both loose?
 
Dec 5, 2012
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Mid West
You have to have preset ground rules that outline specifics of unacceptable behavior. Have a list stating what is required of players and parents, then have them sign it. TB coaches need to treat their team as a buisness with players as employees....
Your specific question of how long you should tolerate this mom's behavior fall directly back on you. She's going to do what you permit her to do. Talk to her face to face about how you feel. She can comply or she can leave. It's really that simple.
 
Oct 22, 2009
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How is the parent being disruptive? If parents are new to TB, you really need to sit down with them and explain what your goals for the team, and set clear ground rules and expectations. When parents are coming from rec ball, it is quite an adjustment. n addition, the move up from 12U to 14U is also a big transition for parents, as they need to realize they need to take a step back. I would have the conversation with the parent (possibly with an AC and definitely away from the rest of the team).
 
Feb 7, 2013
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Have you actually seen any questionable behavior or is this rumor and speculation? If the mom has done something inappropriate then I would have a face to face meeting with her and let her know what she did that was egregious and detrimental to the team and that future issues could result in her DD being asked to leave the team.

With that said, the parent code of conduct is a joke. We have signed one since DD was 5YO and it hasn't seem to stop many parents from acting like complete jackasses.

Good luck and thanks for volunteering your time. It's not easy being a coach and you need to have thick skin.
 
Jun 1, 2013
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If you did not go over what is and is not acceptable for parent behavior then sit her down and talk to her. Let her know what behavior is acceptable.

If you did tell her the parent rules, then cut her right before next practice and reiterate your rules after that practice. Your season will be much smoother when your parents realize you will enforce the rules.
 

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