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Jun 17, 2009
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OK, if you don't see the conflict, the diametrically opposing sentiments in "I would help any way I could," and "I will probably end up moving on," then I've got nothing for you. Apologies. Good luck.

I suppose you also see conflict with the following two blurbs?

This is not a take my ball and go home scenario at all.

If it weren't for the other parents, and players approaching me, I would have just looked for another team and been done. Would have told my daughter there are no other options.
 
Apr 28, 2015
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OK, if you don't see the conflict, the diametrically opposing sentiments in "I would help any way I could," and "I will probably end up moving on," then I've got nothing for you. Apologies. Good luck.
Buckeye, I would help the organization because I like the guy who runs it. It's not going to be a help if I stay with the current HC. We will butt heads, and my daughter won't have fun. I'm not going to make my daughter miserable by staying with him. If he will give me control then I will stay and give it my all. I just don't see him doing that. If I can just have another team in the org, I will do that.

I suppose you also see conflict with the following two blurbs?

This is not a take my ball and go home scenario at all.

If it weren't for the other parents, and players approaching me, I would have just looked for another team and been done. Would have told my daughter there are no other options.
FFS, I never know how to take you.



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Jun 17, 2009
15,105
0
Portland, OR
OK, if you don't see the conflict, the diametrically opposing sentiments in "I would help any way I could," and "I will probably end up moving on," then I've got nothing for you. Apologies. Good luck.
Buckeye, I would help the organization because I like the guy who runs it. It's not going to be a help if I stay with the current HC. We will butt heads, and my daughter won't have fun. I'm not going to make my daughter miserable by staying with him. If he will give me control then I will stay and give it my all. I just don't see him doing that. If I can just have another team in the org, I will do that.

I suppose you also see conflict with the following two blurbs?

This is not a take my ball and go home scenario at all.

If it weren't for the other parents, and players approaching me, I would have just looked for another team and been done. Would have told my daughter there are no other options.
FFS, I never know how to take you.



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The suggestion here is to avoid being wishy-washy.

Buckeye is giving you honest feedback.

If you have conditions that need to be met to remain with the organization then state them.

Don't state that this is not a situation of you taking the ball and going home ... that only adds further confusion and fuels the drama.

Be clear. Know what you want. State the conditions that you need met. Then act on the decision that is made.
 
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Apr 28, 2015
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Just an update, the talk didn't go well and it has gotten ugly with parents and the HC. Thanks for the advice. Even the stuff I didn't want to hear.


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Jun 17, 2009
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Portland, OR
At least now you know where things stand.

You can now focus your energies appropriately.

Time to get ready for the next season.

Wish your DD well with the new team.
 
Nov 29, 2009
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Just an update, the talk didn't go well and it has gotten ugly with parents and the HC. Thanks for the advice. Even the stuff I didn't want to hear.


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It's time to move on. The entire situation has dissolved into a drama-filled, toxic-laden soap opera. The best thing you can do is to remove your DD and yourself from it. Obviously the board is not taking their responsibility to the team, not the coaches or players, seriously. I do not see them doing anything different in the future for you either. At some point it is OK for you to think of your DD first and proceed in that direction. Your DD will thank you for it later.

Had a similar situation with my DD's in rec. A bunch of drama-filled conflict. Ended up leaving and putting the DD's on a travel teams. Never looked back and it was the best thing for my DD's. Made the mistake of trying to develop a travel side to a rec program with no kids in the program. Nothing but headaches from self-serving board members. Left that situation too.
 

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